Hey everyone, the moderators want to point out that this topic is heated for several reasons:
Lots of relevant information comes from peopleâs personal experiences, which will vary a lot.
Harassment and power dynamics are often emotionally loaded and can be difficult to discuss objectively.
Polyamory is something that a lot of the world stigmatizes, so some people will be defensive (whether merited or not), and some will be subconsciously biased against it. This makes it hard to discuss without assuming that some people are hostile.
The facts mentioned in the article are very serious and disturbing, and some readers have experienced similarly appalling episodes
So we want to ask everyone to be especially understanding and generous when discussing topics this sensitive. And as a reminder, harassment is unacceptable. One resource that exists for this is the Community Health Team at CEA. You can get in touch with the team here. If you ever experience harassment of any kind on the Forum, please reach out to the moderation team.
Edit: added the last bullet point after a useful comment
This comment not acknowledging that it might be difficult for some people to discuss or engage with because theyâve gone through harrowing experiences seems like a big oversight. Very much feels like youâre trying to âboth sidesâ this.
I agree: the main reason why these topics are hard to discuss, and we should be especially sensitive, is that many people have gone through horrifying experiences, and I should have mentioned this in the comment.
Iâm thinking of adding a bullet point âThe facts mentioned in the article are very serious and disturbing, and some readers have experienced similarly appalling episodesâ, do you think that would make it clear? In hindsight, this comment was posted too quickly after reading the post, and I should have worded it better. Iâll make sure to mention your point explicitly on the next similar thread.
This comment was adapted from a comment mods made on a similar thread, that sadly had devolved into arguments that I think didnât fully live up to our (very high) discussion standards. I erred on the side of posting early hoping it would lead to more compassionate discussions, but I think I overcorrected and made a mistake.
Hey everyone, the moderators want to point out that this topic is heated for several reasons:
Lots of relevant information comes from peopleâs personal experiences, which will vary a lot.
Harassment and power dynamics are often emotionally loaded and can be difficult to discuss objectively.
Polyamory is something that a lot of the world stigmatizes, so some people will be defensive (whether merited or not), and some will be subconsciously biased against it. This makes it hard to discuss without assuming that some people are hostile.
The facts mentioned in the article are very serious and disturbing, and some readers have experienced similarly appalling episodes
So we want to ask everyone to be especially understanding and generous when discussing topics this sensitive.
And as a reminder, harassment is unacceptable. One resource that exists for this is the Community Health Team at CEA. You can get in touch with the team here. If you ever experience harassment of any kind on the Forum, please reach out to the moderation team.
Edit: added the last bullet point after a useful comment
This comment not acknowledging that it might be difficult for some people to discuss or engage with because theyâve gone through harrowing experiences seems like a big oversight. Very much feels like youâre trying to âboth sidesâ this.
Hi Joshua, thank you so much for the feedback.
I agree: the main reason why these topics are hard to discuss, and we should be especially sensitive, is that many people have gone through horrifying experiences, and I should have mentioned this in the comment.
Iâm thinking of adding a bullet point âThe facts mentioned in the article are very serious and disturbing, and some readers have experienced similarly appalling episodesâ, do you think that would make it clear?
In hindsight, this comment was posted too quickly after reading the post, and I should have worded it better. Iâll make sure to mention your point explicitly on the next similar thread.
This comment was adapted from a comment mods made on a similar thread, that sadly had devolved into arguments that I think didnât fully live up to our (very high) discussion standards. I erred on the side of posting early hoping it would lead to more compassionate discussions, but I think I overcorrected and made a mistake.
Edit: added the bullet point
+1 for both sides