To get a sense of why poly people are upset about this, imagine if...
I’m confused by your analogy to celibacy because the analogous statements seem really different from anything I’ve said or think? I don’t think there are better outcomes if people refrain from polyamory, haven’t told anyone they should break up, and don’t think polyamory is bad.
if you’re brazen and sociopathic enough to do some of the things described in the article, and also high status, you’re not …
This is getting deeper into a hypothetical (“what I think I would do in an alternative world where I had strong evidence that polyamory was harmful”) that I don’t think is very helpful? If you really want to know what I would do in this situation I’m willing to continue, but I’m nervous about people misinterpreting and thinking that I’m talking about a non-hypothetical.
I’m sorry to have misinterpreted you. I guess I’m confused by what your broad point is now—where do we disagree? I think I don’t understand why you disagree with my comment that ‘Polyamory is a morally neutral relationship structure that’s practiced happily by lots of people. It doesn’t make you an abuser, or not-an-abuser.’
I’m confused by your analogy to celibacy because the analogous statements seem really different from anything I’ve said or think? I don’t think there are better outcomes if people refrain from polyamory, haven’t told anyone they should break up, and don’t think polyamory is bad.
This is getting deeper into a hypothetical (“what I think I would do in an alternative world where I had strong evidence that polyamory was harmful”) that I don’t think is very helpful? If you really want to know what I would do in this situation I’m willing to continue, but I’m nervous about people misinterpreting and thinking that I’m talking about a non-hypothetical.
I’m sorry to have misinterpreted you. I guess I’m confused by what your broad point is now—where do we disagree? I think I don’t understand why you disagree with my comment that ‘Polyamory is a morally neutral relationship structure that’s practiced happily by lots of people. It doesn’t make you an abuser, or not-an-abuser.’
I’m not sure we disagree all that much, and I’m sorry for giving the impression otherwise!
Where I think we disagree is that I don’t think we can just take neutrality as an assumption? Instead, it matters what the effects are.