I am very grateful with you all for all I have learnt through this post. Our decision was made out of good will, but never good will is enough and I learn this every day as I get more involved in EA. I shared this information because I truly thought we were doing good by risking it and giving a chance to people that not very often are given one, and I was happy about this. Also because I am new to EA and I believe this community has a lot to offer with respect to tricky issues. Adoption processes are very slow so we haven’t even met the person yet. I probably should have added that we had applied to adopt other teenagers but we were not allowed to follow since they required parents with no children (I understood later from people that work for the family court that what was probably the case because of their history of abuse, but I am not certain about this so I can’t be sure what is the control the court has over the issue). On the other hand, I must confess I usually feel discouraged to raise as many issues I would like because I don’t feel smart/informed enough, and it feels a bit selfish/inconvenient since there is so much information and logic I should go through before posting (I wish I had the time to read and study more!). Nevertheless, I have had a great experience in all platforms with EAs and I have always been treated with respect, even with sensitive topics or not very well developed ideas or assumptions. Thank you!
On the other hand, I must confess I usually feel discouraged to raise as many issues I would like because I don’t feel smart/informed enough, and it feels a bit selfish/inconvenient since there is so much information and logic I should go through before posting (I wish I had the time to read and study more!)
One of the main reasons the Forum exists is to give people a way to ask questions when they don’t feel well-informed about something. People answer those questions because they want to help; it’s definitely not selfish to ask!
Thanks for sharing your story here; I hope you’ll keep reading and commenting, and I hope your family is well (whether or not you decided to add another person to it).
I am very grateful with you all for all I have learnt through this post. Our decision was made out of good will, but never good will is enough and I learn this every day as I get more involved in EA. I shared this information because I truly thought we were doing good by risking it and giving a chance to people that not very often are given one, and I was happy about this. Also because I am new to EA and I believe this community has a lot to offer with respect to tricky issues.
Adoption processes are very slow so we haven’t even met the person yet. I probably should have added that we had applied to adopt other teenagers but we were not allowed to follow since they required parents with no children (I understood later from people that work for the family court that what was probably the case because of their history of abuse, but I am not certain about this so I can’t be sure what is the control the court has over the issue).
On the other hand, I must confess I usually feel discouraged to raise as many issues I would like because I don’t feel smart/informed enough, and it feels a bit selfish/inconvenient since there is so much information and logic I should go through before posting (I wish I had the time to read and study more!). Nevertheless, I have had a great experience in all platforms with EAs and I have always been treated with respect, even with sensitive topics or not very well developed ideas or assumptions. Thank you!
One of the main reasons the Forum exists is to give people a way to ask questions when they don’t feel well-informed about something. People answer those questions because they want to help; it’s definitely not selfish to ask!
Thanks for sharing your story here; I hope you’ll keep reading and commenting, and I hope your family is well (whether or not you decided to add another person to it).