Thank you for sharing your experiences. I’m so sorry about the bad behavior you experienced!
I especially appreciate the description of what it’s like to be new in an area (geographic, social, or professional) and not have your feet under you enough to immediately get out of a bad situation. This highlights why it’s important for more-established people to pay attention to the culture and look out for what’s happening to newer or more vulnerable people.
There’s an ongoing question about how much some of these dynamics are regional (especially Bay Area-specific) vs more universal. I appreciate you noting that an emphasis on pickup artistry was also present in the Boston/Cambridge area, and I’ll DM you about that dynamic, which definitely interests me as one of the local organizers there.
Thank you for sharing your experiences. I’m so sorry about the bad behavior you experienced!
I especially appreciate the description of what it’s like to be new in an area (geographic, social, or professional) and not have your feet under you enough to immediately get out of a bad situation. This highlights why it’s important for more-established people to pay attention to the culture and look out for what’s happening to newer or more vulnerable people.
There’s an ongoing question about how much some of these dynamics are regional (especially Bay Area-specific) vs more universal. I appreciate you noting that an emphasis on pickup artistry was also present in the Boston/Cambridge area, and I’ll DM you about that dynamic, which definitely interests me as one of the local organizers there.
Thank you for your kind words, and for the work you are doing! I haven’t been in Boston since ~2017, but I messaged you with what I know.