Iām particularly annoyed if someone asks me for a favour and then send a calendly with only a couple slots, or slots that donāt make sense in my time zone. Iām very very annoyed if I say āHowās Monday at 8?ā and they say, āI think that should be fine, can you check my Calendly?ā
Yeah, I think Iād find both of those annoying as well, and the second especiallyāthe second just seems an entirely unnecessary use of calendly anyway, and does seem to fairly strongly signal āYour time is worth less than mineā.
Instead of starting from my preferences, Iām put in the position of picking which of their preferences is the least inconvenient for me. Itās perfectly functional, but I donāt get to be the star.
Interesting. I guess Iād assumed people would instead see it more like me offering them a massive menu that they can pick from with ease and at their convenience. (Well, not really like that, but something more like that than like them having to work around me in a way that puts me first.)
Iāve found it difficult to find a clear takeaway from this discussion. I think relevant points are here:
Making each other feel respected
Finding a time that actually works well for both (i.e. not overly inconvenient times)
Saving time scheduling meetings
Some of the suggestions emphasize #1 at the expense of #3 (and possibly #2). E.g., if I send my Calendly and make concrete suggestions, that removes the time-saving aspects because I have to check my calendar and thereās a risk of double-booking (or I have to hold the slots if I want to prevent that).
My current guess is that the following works best: Send the Calendly link, click it yourself briefly to ensure it has a reasonable amount of options in the recipientās time zone available, and tell the recipient āfeel free to just suggest whichever times work best for you.ā
Not sure that works for those who are most skeptical/āunhappy about Calendly.
Yeah, I think Iād find both of those annoying as well, and the second especiallyāthe second just seems an entirely unnecessary use of calendly anyway, and does seem to fairly strongly signal āYour time is worth less than mineā.
Interesting. I guess Iād assumed people would instead see it more like me offering them a massive menu that they can pick from with ease and at their convenience. (Well, not really like that, but something more like that than like them having to work around me in a way that puts me first.)
Stefan wrote in another comment:
Do you think that that option would alleviate this feeling for you?
Most likely! I guess weāll just have to test it and see!
Iāve found it difficult to find a clear takeaway from this discussion. I think relevant points are here:
Making each other feel respected
Finding a time that actually works well for both (i.e. not overly inconvenient times)
Saving time scheduling meetings
Some of the suggestions emphasize #1 at the expense of #3 (and possibly #2). E.g., if I send my Calendly and make concrete suggestions, that removes the time-saving aspects because I have to check my calendar and thereās a risk of double-booking (or I have to hold the slots if I want to prevent that).
My current guess is that the following works best: Send the Calendly link, click it yourself briefly to ensure it has a reasonable amount of options in the recipientās time zone available, and tell the recipient āfeel free to just suggest whichever times work best for you.ā
Not sure that works for those who are most skeptical/āunhappy about Calendly.
That wouldnāt change my feelings, no.
Just learned about this, havenāt tried yet, but it claims to solve the problem mentioned here: https://āāsavvycal.com/āā
Yes that looks betterāsimilar to Outlookās inbuilt calendar invite system.
Update: Iāve tried it and switched away from Calendly. Iām very happy with it so far.