FWIW: I want to offer a strong dissenting voice that I do not like how this has been handled in this comment section. Saying something isn’t intended to be harsh and mean doesn’t make it not harsh and mean. You can point out things that concern you without singling out individual people and I think the average person would have found this incredibly hurtful and off-putting.
Apologies, I usually try to respond to claims on the object level or occasionally try to enforce epistemic norms, and don’t usually bother enforcing politeness/niceness norms (in part because I think this is not my comparative advantage). I do frequently try to reach out privately if I notice people say hurtful things or people might be hurt due to the relevant situation. I agree that Anonymous EA Forum user’s comment may come across as unnecessarily aggressive to many readers[1] and perhaps it was wrong for me to reply without noting that. I thought Elizabeth’s comment was quite good in that context.
Oh uh I assume KMF intended to address Anonymous EA Forum user, but clicked “reply” in the wrong place; “harsh and mean” are quotes from Anon’s post. (I have a hard time seeing how her comment applies to anything you said).
Oh I don’t interpret her as saying that my comments are mean by themselves, but that maybe the whole discussion was mean or at least insensitive. Eg my comments helped “platform” AEAFu.
FWIW: I want to offer a strong dissenting voice that I do not like how this has been handled in this comment section. Saying something isn’t intended to be harsh and mean doesn’t make it not harsh and mean. You can point out things that concern you without singling out individual people and I think the average person would have found this incredibly hurtful and off-putting.
Apologies, I usually try to respond to claims on the object level or occasionally try to enforce epistemic norms, and don’t usually bother enforcing politeness/niceness norms (in part because I think this is not my comparative advantage). I do frequently try to reach out privately if I notice people say hurtful things or people might be hurt due to the relevant situation. I agree that Anonymous EA Forum user’s comment may come across as unnecessarily aggressive to many readers[1] and perhaps it was wrong for me to reply without noting that. I thought Elizabeth’s comment was quite good in that context.
If I were in Rachel’s situation, these comments might easily have led me to be quite insecure.
Oh uh I assume KMF intended to address Anonymous EA Forum user, but clicked “reply” in the wrong place; “harsh and mean” are quotes from Anon’s post. (I have a hard time seeing how her comment applies to anything you said).
Oh I don’t interpret her as saying that my comments are mean by themselves, but that maybe the whole discussion was mean or at least insensitive. Eg my comments helped “platform” AEAFu.
Sorry, Linch- Austin is totally right. I am just useless at the Forum :)