I’m under the impression that mainstream orgs deal with this rather poorly, by having the relationships still happen, but be Big Dark Forbidden Secrets instead of things that people are allowed to actually know about and take into account. But they Pretend to be acting with Great Propriety which is all that matters for the great kayfabe performance in front of those who’d perform pearl-clutching otherwise. People falsifying their romantic relationships to conform to ideas about required public image is part of our present culture of everything being fake; so what loves you forbid from being known and spoken of, by way of trying to forbid the loves themselves, you should forbid very hesitantly.
I think our current culture is better, even in light of current events, because I don’t think the standard culture would have actually prevented this bad outcome (unless almost any minor causal perturbance would’ve prevented it). It would mean that SBF/C’s relationship was just coming out now even though they’d previously supposedly properly broken up before setting up the two companies, or something—if we learned even that much!
One thing that people in mainstream orgs do, if they want to act with integrity, is resign from roles/go work somewhere else when they want to start a relationship that would create a conflict of interest whilst both are in their current positions (or if they value their job(s) more, give up on the idea of the relationship).
The first half of this comment is tangential at best. It’s also a bit odd to me how much you are defending “our current culture” when someone posted on the forum just yesterday expressing concerns about said culture.
...by not saying anything in favor of protecting some aspect of our current culture, when somebody else has just recently expressed concerns about it? That’s a rule?
I’m under the impression that mainstream orgs deal with this rather poorly, by having the relationships still happen, but be Big Dark Forbidden Secrets instead of things that people are allowed to actually know about and take into account. But they Pretend to be acting with Great Propriety which is all that matters for the great kayfabe performance in front of those who’d perform pearl-clutching otherwise. People falsifying their romantic relationships to conform to ideas about required public image is part of our present culture of everything being fake; so what loves you forbid from being known and spoken of, by way of trying to forbid the loves themselves, you should forbid very hesitantly.
I think our current culture is better, even in light of current events, because I don’t think the standard culture would have actually prevented this bad outcome (unless almost any minor causal perturbance would’ve prevented it). It would mean that SBF/C’s relationship was just coming out now even though they’d previously supposedly properly broken up before setting up the two companies, or something—if we learned even that much!
One thing that people in mainstream orgs do, if they want to act with integrity, is resign from roles/go work somewhere else when they want to start a relationship that would create a conflict of interest whilst both are in their current positions (or if they value their job(s) more, give up on the idea of the relationship).
The first half of this comment is tangential at best. It’s also a bit odd to me how much you are defending “our current culture” when someone posted on the forum just yesterday expressing concerns about said culture.
...are you suggesting that nobody ought to dare to defend aspects of our current culture once somebody has expressed concerns about them?
I’m suggesting that you show some humility.
...by not saying anything in favor of protecting some aspect of our current culture, when somebody else has just recently expressed concerns about it? That’s a rule?