Is Jacy’s comment above where he seemed to present things in a way that puts him in a relatively positive light and ignores hard questions? Or the Apology post? I don’t really see how you’re getting that smell. John wrote a very negative comment, whether or not you think that negativity was justified, so it makes sense for Jacy to reply by pointing out inaccuracies that would make him seem more positive. I think it would take an extremely unusual person to engage in a discussion like this that isn’t steering in a more positive direction towards them. I also just took the questions he “ignored” as being ones where he doesn’t see them as inaccurate.
This is all not even mentioning how absolutely miserable and tired Jacy must be to go through this time and time again, again regardless of what you think of him as a person...
In my opinion, this is a bizarre comment. You seem to have more sympathy with Jacy, who has been accused of sexual harassment at least six times in this life for having to defend himself than eg the people who are reading this who he has harassed, or the people who are worried that he might harass them in the future as he tries to rejoin the community.
Actually no I got reasonably good vibes from the comment above. I read it as a bit defensive but it’s a fair point that that’s quite natural if he’s being attacked.
I remember feeling bad about the vibes of the Apology post but I haven’t gone back and reread it lately. (It’s also a few years old, so he may be a meaningfully different person now.)
I actually didn’t mean for any of my comments here to get into attacks on our defence of Jacy. I don’t think I have great evidence and don’t think I’m a very good person to listen to on this! I just wanted to come and clarify that my criticism of John was supposed to be just that, and not have people read into it a defence of Jacy.
(I take it that the bar for deciding personally to disengage is lower than for e.g. recommending others do that. I don’t make any recommendations for others. Maybe I’ll engage with Jacy later; I do feel happier about recent than old evidence, but it hasn’t yet moved me to particularly wanting to engage.)
Is Jacy’s comment above where he seemed to present things in a way that puts him in a relatively positive light and ignores hard questions? Or the Apology post? I don’t really see how you’re getting that smell. John wrote a very negative comment, whether or not you think that negativity was justified, so it makes sense for Jacy to reply by pointing out inaccuracies that would make him seem more positive. I think it would take an extremely unusual person to engage in a discussion like this that isn’t steering in a more positive direction towards them. I also just took the questions he “ignored” as being ones where he doesn’t see them as inaccurate.
This is all not even mentioning how absolutely miserable and tired Jacy must be to go through this time and time again, again regardless of what you think of him as a person...
In my opinion, this is a bizarre comment. You seem to have more sympathy with Jacy, who has been accused of sexual harassment at least six times in this life for having to defend himself than eg the people who are reading this who he has harassed, or the people who are worried that he might harass them in the future as he tries to rejoin the community.
Actually no I got reasonably good vibes from the comment above. I read it as a bit defensive but it’s a fair point that that’s quite natural if he’s being attacked.
I remember feeling bad about the vibes of the Apology post but I haven’t gone back and reread it lately. (It’s also a few years old, so he may be a meaningfully different person now.)
I actually didn’t mean for any of my comments here to get into attacks on our defence of Jacy. I don’t think I have great evidence and don’t think I’m a very good person to listen to on this! I just wanted to come and clarify that my criticism of John was supposed to be just that, and not have people read into it a defence of Jacy.
(I take it that the bar for deciding personally to disengage is lower than for e.g. recommending others do that. I don’t make any recommendations for others. Maybe I’ll engage with Jacy later; I do feel happier about recent than old evidence, but it hasn’t yet moved me to particularly wanting to engage.)