I disagree-voted with your claim. I wouldn’t say it’s actively professional, but I don’t think it’s inherently unprofessional either to flirt with, hit on, and ask out a colleague if neither of you is in each other’s reporting chain, and your company has no policy against it. My sense is that this is pretty accepted in most of the large organizations that I know of as a matter of course and not considered bad behavior, nor should it be. Of course, given that you work together ongoingly, it’s probably prudent to be especially receptive to any signs that it’s making them uncomfortable and stop right away if so.
I also thought the tone of your comment was snide and unpleasant, and also just overconfident: most large companies I know don’t have a policy against their employees asking each other out (e.g. here’s an old discussion of Google and Facebook’s policies), so I don’t know why you would think would or consider it so obvious.
This is completely separate from the matter Frances is discussing about having a document discussing her rape shared among her colleagues, which sounds exceedingly distressing, and I have a hard time thinking of a reasonable justification for.
I disagree-voted with your claim. I wouldn’t say it’s actively professional, but I don’t think it’s inherently unprofessional either to flirt with, hit on, and ask out a colleague if neither of you is in each other’s reporting chain, and your company has no policy against it. My sense is that this is pretty accepted in most of the large organizations that I know of as a matter of course and not considered bad behavior, nor should it be. Of course, given that you work together ongoingly, it’s probably prudent to be especially receptive to any signs that it’s making them uncomfortable and stop right away if so.
I also thought the tone of your comment was snide and unpleasant, and also just overconfident: most large companies I know don’t have a policy against their employees asking each other out (e.g. here’s an old discussion of Google and Facebook’s policies), so I don’t know why you would think would or consider it so obvious.
This is completely separate from the matter Frances is discussing about having a document discussing her rape shared among her colleagues, which sounds exceedingly distressing, and I have a hard time thinking of a reasonable justification for.