I mean I think if you’re attracted to like 90% of women you shouldn’t be DMing 90% of women “you up?”
but like a friend or someone you have a crush on? my view is they’re an adult and can handle hearing this and there are an astonishing number of ways people can screw up which are prevented by doing this ASAP
like if you look through the comments women are more saying “guys do X to try to sleep with me but retain plausible deniability for doing so when I would really just like to do X for its own sake” and less “hearing that guys are interested in me is an infohazard”
i think a lot of guys are rationalising about this out of a fear of getting rejected when the point is they should be making it easy to reject them.
I mean I think if you’re attracted to like 90% of women you shouldn’t be DMing 90% of women “you up?”
but like a friend or someone you have a crush on? my view is they’re an adult and can handle hearing this and there are an astonishing number of ways people can screw up which are prevented by doing this ASAP
like if you look through the comments women are more saying “guys do X to try to sleep with me but retain plausible deniability for doing so when I would really just like to do X for its own sake” and less “hearing that guys are interested in me is an infohazard”
i think a lot of guys are rationalising about this out of a fear of getting rejected when the point is they should be making it easy to reject them.