I mean I think if youâre attracted to like 90% of women you shouldnât be DMing 90% of women âyou up?â
but like a friend or someone you have a crush on? my view is theyâre an adult and can handle hearing this and there are an astonishing number of ways people can screw up which are prevented by doing this ASAP
like if you look through the comments women are more saying âguys do X to try to sleep with me but retain plausible deniability for doing so when I would really just like to do X for its own sakeâ and less âhearing that guys are interested in me is an infohazardâ
i think a lot of guys are rationalising about this out of a fear of getting rejected when the point is they should be making it easy to reject them.
Even if you didnât know anything yet about whether they were interested in you? Thatâs a big part of what (mutual!) flirting accomplishes, no?
I mean I think if youâre attracted to like 90% of women you shouldnât be DMing 90% of women âyou up?â
but like a friend or someone you have a crush on? my view is theyâre an adult and can handle hearing this and there are an astonishing number of ways people can screw up which are prevented by doing this ASAP
like if you look through the comments women are more saying âguys do X to try to sleep with me but retain plausible deniability for doing so when I would really just like to do X for its own sakeâ and less âhearing that guys are interested in me is an infohazardâ
i think a lot of guys are rationalising about this out of a fear of getting rejected when the point is they should be making it easy to reject them.