It’s a really difficult counterfactual—would the amazing relationship have happened if more people chose to follow the OP’s guidelines? I’m not sure what you mean by the marginal case exactly.
Sorry, I was too terse. There’s a thing that happens where people are trying to imagine the effect of a change where they think about how that change would affect a central example. For example, if you were trying to guess what sort of effect charging slightly more for bread would have you might reason that people who buy bread generally like it a lot and a few cents either way is unlikely to change whether it is worth it for them to make the purchase. This kind of thinking reliably gets the wrong answer, because instead of typical bread consumers the ones whose purchasing behavior is most likely to change are the ones who are most on the fence about whether to buy bread. These cases are called, at least in economics, “marginal”, and reasoning that explicitly focuses here is called “thinking on the margin”.
So we need to think about the kind of relationships that would be most affected. For example, ones where the people were initially only in the same place together for a short time (ex: at a conference) and without moving somewhat quickly through stages of intimacy would have gone off in different directions before realizing how good a fit they are for each other.
Your comment described how the typical couple would still get together, and I don’t disagree there. I’m not claiming that the rate would go to zero, just that it would decrease and we should think about how much it would go down and how bad that would be.
It’s a really difficult counterfactual—would the amazing relationship have happened if more people chose to follow the OP’s guidelines? I’m not sure what you mean by the marginal case exactly.
Sorry, I was too terse. There’s a thing that happens where people are trying to imagine the effect of a change where they think about how that change would affect a central example. For example, if you were trying to guess what sort of effect charging slightly more for bread would have you might reason that people who buy bread generally like it a lot and a few cents either way is unlikely to change whether it is worth it for them to make the purchase. This kind of thinking reliably gets the wrong answer, because instead of typical bread consumers the ones whose purchasing behavior is most likely to change are the ones who are most on the fence about whether to buy bread. These cases are called, at least in economics, “marginal”, and reasoning that explicitly focuses here is called “thinking on the margin”.
So we need to think about the kind of relationships that would be most affected. For example, ones where the people were initially only in the same place together for a short time (ex: at a conference) and without moving somewhat quickly through stages of intimacy would have gone off in different directions before realizing how good a fit they are for each other.
Your comment described how the typical couple would still get together, and I don’t disagree there. I’m not claiming that the rate would go to zero, just that it would decrease and we should think about how much it would go down and how bad that would be.