I’m not Jeff, but this example made me think you were calling for avoiding all but the most serious / “the one”-type relationships:
Bob is polyamorous with multiple people, including Alice, AND Alice is not his primary
Avoiding this would prevent a lot of really good (and serious!) relationships in this community. Many secondary relationships are serious and strong and long-lasting, and some primary relationships start out as secondary relationships. Conflating “secondary relationships” with “sleeping around” seems really mistaken to me.
I’m not Jeff, but this example made me think you were calling for avoiding all but the most serious / “the one”-type relationships:
Avoiding this would prevent a lot of really good (and serious!) relationships in this community. Many secondary relationships are serious and strong and long-lasting, and some primary relationships start out as secondary relationships. Conflating “secondary relationships” with “sleeping around” seems really mistaken to me.