tbh I’m not exactly sure you … understand poly culture here? like it feels like you have primary relationships filed under “serious” relationships and secondary relationships filed under “unserious” which like … doesn’t really get it imo
for me “good friends and people who i’d like to be friends with” is pretty closely correlated with “people i’d go out of my way to hook up with” and it feels like you have decided that a for me is an normal human way to show affection is off limits or inadvisable?
i think there’s a third thing that’s kind of reasonable to object to which is guys in EA hitting on women in EA for no more reason than that they are women in EA, which is fair enough.
tbh I’m not exactly sure you … understand poly culture here?
like it feels like you have primary relationships filed under “serious” relationships and secondary relationships filed under “unserious” which like … doesn’t really get it imo
for me “good friends and people who i’d like to be friends with” is pretty closely correlated with “people i’d go out of my way to hook up with” and it feels like you have decided that a for me is an normal human way to show affection is off limits or inadvisable?
i think there’s a third thing that’s kind of reasonable to object to which is guys in EA hitting on women in EA for no more reason than that they are women in EA, which is fair enough.
I agree with your points on poly culture. However, I find the suggestion that guys need “a good reason” to hit on women a bit bizarre.
It makes sense to me—are you hitting on a given woman because you’re into them specifically, or just because you’re like ’woman: ✅, EA: ✅’
we gatekeeping romantic attraction now?
i mean i don’t really understand baseline male sexuality but like, you should be genuinely curious as to what’s in someone’s head to do this?
idk?
I think the best way to think about it is that the typical male’s sexual desire is axiomatic.