Thank you for writing this comment. It made me realize that a main reason I feel uncomfortable talking about effective giving with the wealthiest people I know is that I implicitly worry they might decide to buy a mansion or a yacht, instead of saving thousands of children from death or poverty, depending on how exactly I phrase things. This is not particularly respectful towards them[1] and I’m going to think differently about this going forward, and try to respect their judgment and their character more, and have a lower bar for talking to them about effective giving.
But I want to push back as strongly as I can on this:
I’m left wondering whether part of the concern about cold outreach is that, when it does work, it allows organisations to bypass the existing intermediaries. Middlemen tend not to be enthusiastic about that.
I think it’s valuable to flag potential conflicts of interest that might bias someone, and to flag self-promotion, but we should have a very high bar for imputing selfish intent.
Besides being against forum norms, I think these speculations about motives empirically have had significant negative consequences (three examples here), make cooperation harder, and discourage people from doing anything that can be perceived as self-serving (which includes many of the most impactful things someone can work on).
It might be a stretched example, but e.g. you mention in another comment that you had success doing cold outreach. I think it would be much more productive to discuss what makes cold outreach net-positive vs net-negative, and discuss your experience, compared to whether you’re defending cold outreach out of personal interest.[2]
Thank you for writing this comment. It made me realize that a main reason I feel uncomfortable talking about effective giving with the wealthiest people I know is that I implicitly worry they might decide to buy a mansion or a yacht, instead of saving thousands of children from death or poverty, depending on how exactly I phrase things. This is not particularly respectful towards them[1] and I’m going to think differently about this going forward, and try to respect their judgment and their character more, and have a lower bar for talking to them about effective giving.
But I want to push back as strongly as I can on this:
I think it’s valuable to flag potential conflicts of interest that might bias someone, and to flag self-promotion, but we should have a very high bar for imputing selfish intent.
Besides being against forum norms, I think these speculations about motives empirically have had significant negative consequences (three examples here), make cooperation harder, and discourage people from doing anything that can be perceived as self-serving (which includes many of the most impactful things someone can work on).
It might be a stretched example, but e.g. you mention in another comment that you had success doing cold outreach. I think it would be much more productive to discuss what makes cold outreach net-positive vs net-negative, and discuss your experience, compared to whether you’re defending cold outreach out of personal interest.[2]
Although it might be correct, we’re all human
Which to be clear I obviously don’t think you are