Thanks for sharing that viewpoint Alice. I would guess the resolving these types of issues largely depend on everybody being clear about their needs and as understanding as possible of other’s needs.
One thing though, is that there are lots of factors other than the parents’ competence that might affect how un-quietandtidy a small person might be on a given day. My daughter is a bit younger than Julia’s, but I’ve already discovered that she might sit quietly through a given situation on one day, but be unsettled and noisy on another. I generally feel quite self-conscious and will remove us both if I think she’s disrupting the event. I don’t think you intended it this way, but saying people’s compatibility with a child is a measure of their parents’ skills makes that kind of feeling much more acute!
What an incredibly unfriendly thing to say 12 months later to somebody you’ve never met in person. Given the context above I’m not sure if you are writing it to say I did not competently parent our child at EAG? The EAG I attended happened 8 months after I wrote that comment. In 8 months young children develop and their needs and behaviour change. What a shock.
Our daughter (14 months old at the time of EAG) was present in the lecture theatre for parts of 2 talks. She did not cry during in any of the lectures. She babbled loudly and I removed her when that happened. For the rest of the conference one of us missed the talks in order to keep her in the hall. I paid the full cost of attending the conference.
Both her parents were there by the way, have you made sure to pass your criticism on to her father?
Thanks for sharing that viewpoint Alice. I would guess the resolving these types of issues largely depend on everybody being clear about their needs and as understanding as possible of other’s needs.
One thing though, is that there are lots of factors other than the parents’ competence that might affect how un-quietandtidy a small person might be on a given day. My daughter is a bit younger than Julia’s, but I’ve already discovered that she might sit quietly through a given situation on one day, but be unsettled and noisy on another. I generally feel quite self-conscious and will remove us both if I think she’s disrupting the event. I don’t think you intended it this way, but saying people’s compatibility with a child is a measure of their parents’ skills makes that kind of feeling much more acute!
One of the few things I remember about EA Global, through my haze of jet lag, was how much your baby screamed during the talks.
What an incredibly unfriendly thing to say 12 months later to somebody you’ve never met in person. Given the context above I’m not sure if you are writing it to say I did not competently parent our child at EAG? The EAG I attended happened 8 months after I wrote that comment. In 8 months young children develop and their needs and behaviour change. What a shock.
Our daughter (14 months old at the time of EAG) was present in the lecture theatre for parts of 2 talks. She did not cry during in any of the lectures. She babbled loudly and I removed her when that happened. For the rest of the conference one of us missed the talks in order to keep her in the hall. I paid the full cost of attending the conference.
Both her parents were there by the way, have you made sure to pass your criticism on to her father?