I avoid reading, and don’t usually respond to, comments on my posts, or replies to my own comments.
The reason is that it’s emotionally intense to do so: after posting something on the EA Forum, I avoid checking the forum at all for ~24h or so (for fear of noticing replies in the ‘recents’ area, or changes in my karma), and after that I mainly skim for people flagging major errors or omissions that need my input to be resolved.
Lizka’s You Don’t Have to Respond to Every Comment talks about this a bit (and was enormously helpful for me) - I am not strongly averse to posting stuff and having people read it in the abstract—I just don’t like the short term emotional swings that come with individual replies to things.
This was a good nudge for me to lower the frequency on all my notifications (especially the karma one to weekly, which I’ve been checking more than I’d like lately)
Yep, I do something similar! Sounds like I end up replying to more things than you, but I usually disavow the forum for several days or just go on holiday after posting.
I feel this. It would be cool if you could drop a post and put a zoom link at the bottom to discuss it in like 24 or 48 hours, that way there can still be a discussion but maybe skirts around some of this obsessive forum checking ego stuff
I avoid reading, and don’t usually respond to, comments on my posts, or replies to my own comments.
The reason is that it’s emotionally intense to do so: after posting something on the EA Forum, I avoid checking the forum at all for ~24h or so (for fear of noticing replies in the ‘recents’ area, or changes in my karma), and after that I mainly skim for people flagging major errors or omissions that need my input to be resolved.
Lizka’s You Don’t Have to Respond to Every Comment talks about this a bit (and was enormously helpful for me) - I am not strongly averse to posting stuff and having people read it in the abstract—I just don’t like the short term emotional swings that come with individual replies to things.
This was a good nudge for me to lower the frequency on all my notifications (especially the karma one to weekly, which I’ve been checking more than I’d like lately)
Yep, I do something similar! Sounds like I end up replying to more things than you, but I usually disavow the forum for several days or just go on holiday after posting.
I feel this. It would be cool if you could drop a post and put a zoom link at the bottom to discuss it in like 24 or 48 hours, that way there can still be a discussion but maybe skirts around some of this obsessive forum checking ego stuff