My general approach is to make sure to sufficiently disincentivize norm violations, but be very lenient with giving young people second/third/n-th chances, and not write them off just because they didn’t understand the norms or didn’t immediately follow them.
(Incidentally, we’ve recently been discussing how to get disagreeable people to apply and feel welcome and comfortable in the Atlas community, partly for the reasons you mentioned.)
My general approach is to make sure to sufficiently disincentivize norm violations, but be very lenient with giving young people second/third/n-th chances, and not write them off just because they didn’t understand the norms or didn’t immediately follow them.
(Incidentally, we’ve recently been discussing how to get disagreeable people to apply and feel welcome and comfortable in the Atlas community, partly for the reasons you mentioned.)