I find it difficult to combine “I want to be nice and sympathetic and forgiving of people trying to be good people and assume everyone is” with “I think people are not taking this seriously enough and want to tell you how seriously it should be taken”. It’s easier to be forgiving when you can trust people to take it seriously.
I’ve kind of erred on the side of the latter today, because “no one criticises dishonesty or rationalisation because they want to be nice” seems like a concerning failure mode, but it’d be nice if I were better at combining both.
I find it difficult to combine “I want to be nice and sympathetic and forgiving of people trying to be good people and assume everyone is” with “I think people are not taking this seriously enough and want to tell you how seriously it should be taken”. It’s easier to be forgiving when you can trust people to take it seriously.
I’ve kind of erred on the side of the latter today, because “no one criticises dishonesty or rationalisation because they want to be nice” seems like a concerning failure mode, but it’d be nice if I were better at combining both.