Keep in mind that these analogies risk trivializing the oppression that the LGBTQ+ community has faced. Gay and queer individuals have faced and continue to face massive discrimination, and being gay is never a choice.
As a gay person I really strongly object to this. I think it’s quite clear that in most of the modern US, being poly is significantly weirder and puts you more at risk of discrimination (e.g. of issues at work or with your family, or of having your partners recognised by the law) than being gay.
This is classic “oppression olympics” of a style that I think is nearly always counterproductive.
(NB: I actually agree that Bay Area poly culture is probably a contributing factor to a lot of the recent allegations and broader cultural issues, and that people in that culture need to take that possibility really seriously and think carefully about possibilities for change. I don’t think that legitimizes general anti-poly discrimination or derogatory language.)
As a gay person I really strongly object to this. I think it’s quite clear that in most of the modern US, being poly is significantly weirder and puts you more at risk of discrimination (e.g. of issues at work or with your family, or of having your partners recognised by the law) than being gay.
This is classic “oppression olympics” of a style that I think is nearly always counterproductive.
(NB: I actually agree that Bay Area poly culture is probably a contributing factor to a lot of the recent allegations and broader cultural issues, and that people in that culture need to take that possibility really seriously and think carefully about possibilities for change. I don’t think that legitimizes general anti-poly discrimination or derogatory language.)