(Note that I’m trying my best to give advice given rather limited information)
Hello and welcome to the Forum! I first want to say that I relate to a lot of what you said (e.g. discovering Singer at a young age, controlling household).
I want to second a lot of what Julia_Wise says. Focus on your wellbeing and independence if you can. In particular, if you are interested in and good at academics, seriously consider studying really hard in the hopes that you can get a university scholarship to somewhere that’s more free, so you can be more independent in the future.
Also, I want to say something like “it probably gets better?” The world is full of beauty and horrors, and it’s too easy to focus on just the horrors and not the beauty. But there is so much beauty and life in it too, and so much happiness. And perhaps the world is full of suffering now, but as we get stronger and wiser, we will increasingly have the power to make the world go well.
The world is confusing, scary, and out of control at 16. As you get older, you’ll probably still be confused and scared, but you’ll be less confused and scared. And probably things will feel better and less out of control as you have more personal independence.
Focus on your wellbeing and independence. Focus on becoming stronger and freer. And keep in mind that after you become stronger and wiser and hopefully happier, you’ll be in a much better position to address the problems of the world.
(Note that I’m trying my best to give advice given rather limited information)
Hello and welcome to the Forum! I first want to say that I relate to a lot of what you said (e.g. discovering Singer at a young age, controlling household).
I want to second a lot of what Julia_Wise says. Focus on your wellbeing and independence if you can. In particular, if you are interested in and good at academics, seriously consider studying really hard in the hopes that you can get a university scholarship to somewhere that’s more free, so you can be more independent in the future.
Also, I want to say something like “it probably gets better?” The world is full of beauty and horrors, and it’s too easy to focus on just the horrors and not the beauty. But there is so much beauty and life in it too, and so much happiness. And perhaps the world is full of suffering now, but as we get stronger and wiser, we will increasingly have the power to make the world go well.
The world is confusing, scary, and out of control at 16. As you get older, you’ll probably still be confused and scared, but you’ll be less confused and scared. And probably things will feel better and less out of control as you have more personal independence.
Focus on your wellbeing and independence. Focus on becoming stronger and freer. And keep in mind that after you become stronger and wiser and hopefully happier, you’ll be in a much better position to address the problems of the world.