Love this! Not sure if it will win out in the battle arena of EA cause areas, but cultivating deep friendships should definitely be a top personal priority if you care about your happiness.
Relatedly, one way to have better friendships is to make them location-independent, given how most people move so much nowadays. I’ve managed to maintain very close friendships with a lot of friends despite moving a lot, and here’s a short article I wrote about how to do it.
The 80⁄20 of it is to set up regular calls. If you have to organize a hangout each time, it will fizzle out. Make it the strong default.
I’d also add that if you want to have a good romantic relationship, it’s important to maintain good friendships. Putting all of your emotional needs onto one person leads to all sorts of problems. It also distorts your epistemics.
great point re: friends and epistemics. Also makes me think of people who get rich and famous (cough cough SBF cough cough) and become surrounded by yes-men and yes-women instead of friends who can call them out on their bullshit.
Love this! Not sure if it will win out in the battle arena of EA cause areas, but cultivating deep friendships should definitely be a top personal priority if you care about your happiness.
Relatedly, one way to have better friendships is to make them location-independent, given how most people move so much nowadays. I’ve managed to maintain very close friendships with a lot of friends despite moving a lot, and here’s a short article I wrote about how to do it.
The 80⁄20 of it is to set up regular calls. If you have to organize a hangout each time, it will fizzle out. Make it the strong default.
I’d also add that if you want to have a good romantic relationship, it’s important to maintain good friendships. Putting all of your emotional needs onto one person leads to all sorts of problems. It also distorts your epistemics.
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great point re: friends and epistemics. Also makes me think of people who get rich and famous (cough cough SBF cough cough) and become surrounded by yes-men and yes-women instead of friends who can call them out on their bullshit.