Jeff, this is really lovely and I appreciate you thinking out loud through your reasoning. Is be interested to hear what you think will be hard for them as they grow up with “parts with strong unusual views” and whether you think this would be qualitatively different from other unusual views (eg strongly religious, military family, etc)
One way we try to make it easier is by making it clear that the children can make personal choices about things like donation, diet, and eventually career. E.g. we have the full range from vegan to meat-eaters in our house, and when Lily decided she wanted to be vegetarian for a while we said “It’s your choice.”
I can imagine having conflict later about her wanting to use the money we donate differently (for spending on “extras” or for donating to something we don’t think is effective). But I don’t expect it to be worse than the conflict parents and children typically have about money.
Jeff, this is really lovely and I appreciate you thinking out loud through your reasoning. Is be interested to hear what you think will be hard for them as they grow up with “parts with strong unusual views” and whether you think this would be qualitatively different from other unusual views (eg strongly religious, military family, etc)
One way we try to make it easier is by making it clear that the children can make personal choices about things like donation, diet, and eventually career. E.g. we have the full range from vegan to meat-eaters in our house, and when Lily decided she wanted to be vegetarian for a while we said “It’s your choice.”
I can imagine having conflict later about her wanting to use the money we donate differently (for spending on “extras” or for donating to something we don’t think is effective). But I don’t expect it to be worse than the conflict parents and children typically have about money.