I agree that what you describe is probably a defensible sentiment. Your point is similar to what I said in the text:
On the other side, those in favor of entering can argue that staying outside looks like the more self-absorbed choice. It would arguably be motivated by a desire to feel special about one’s pre-existing relationships and refusing to accept that there are better relationships to be had. (Consider the sentiment “If you love them, let them go.”)
But I don’t see how this is the only defensible sentiment. (It feels very viscerally wrong to me.)
I agree that what you describe is probably a defensible sentiment. Your point is similar to what I said in the text:
But I don’t see how this is the only defensible sentiment. (It feels very viscerally wrong to me.)