I mostly like and agree with Ozy’s post (thanks for linking!) though it’s a bit unclear which norm proposals it is objecting to. For example, if it’s the “don’t be poly” norm then totally, but the “sleep around less within the EA community on the margin” then it’s less convincing. (Still may be right in this case, but it would help to address it specifically.)
Yeah, broadly agree (and feel confused about how much I feel like it applies to me personally—like, I feel reasonably comfortable making personal sacrifices in how I organize my personal life for EA reasons, and I imagine others do, too, including with the frame of personal obligation. I just think it’s can also be quite healthy for people to have a more protective attitude towards their private life—noting that Ozy points to a lot of constraints on people’s personal behaviors they are with and also that depending on what Ozy means I’m not necessarily in full agreement with the piece).
Somewhat related, I really liked these two posts:
The Craft is Not The Community
Community vs Network
Also (though I’m not sure I fully agree): https://thingofthings.substack.com/p/on-demandingness-polyamory-and-effective
I mostly like and agree with Ozy’s post (thanks for linking!) though it’s a bit unclear which norm proposals it is objecting to. For example, if it’s the “don’t be poly” norm then totally, but the “sleep around less within the EA community on the margin” then it’s less convincing. (Still may be right in this case, but it would help to address it specifically.)
Yeah, broadly agree (and feel confused about how much I feel like it applies to me personally—like, I feel reasonably comfortable making personal sacrifices in how I organize my personal life for EA reasons, and I imagine others do, too, including with the frame of personal obligation. I just think it’s can also be quite healthy for people to have a more protective attitude towards their private life—noting that Ozy points to a lot of constraints on people’s personal behaviors they are with and also that depending on what Ozy means I’m not necessarily in full agreement with the piece).