103 − 607 male rapists in EA
False precision much? This seems like an inappropriately specific number—it makes it sound like you have concrete evidence, but in reality you’re just multiplying the number of men in EA by 6%. I hope that this number won’t start getting spread around.
A more tractable approach to reducing the trauma from sexual violence might be to change perceptions of sexuality. Many people believe that it’s important for women to be sexually “pure”, which is one reason that female victims experience trauma.
Feminists, to their credit, reject such notions, but if anything they interpret sexual violence even more symbolically—as an attempt to have power over women and “violate” them, whatever that means. According to feminist theory, rape is never about sexual gratification. However, there isn’t much evidence for this interpretation. Interviews with convicted sex offenders reveal a mix of motivations. In addition, there does seem to be a relationship between sexual attractiveness and probability of rape. For example, one study looked at female robbery victims, using age as a proxy for attractiveness. (For obvious reasons, we can’t actually study the attractiveness of victims.) Middle-aged and older women were far less likely to be raped by their assailant.
Setting aside the empirical question of whether rape is actually about destroying the victim’s autonomy, it seems unhelpful to interpret negative events in one’s life symbolically, personalize them, or cast them as part of a larger conspiracy. Cognitive behavioral therapy and other techniques may help victims overcome irrational negative beliefs.
There’s no reason that this should be the case.
There are a lot of factors that are difficult to untangle. The ways that adults or peers react can certainly have an influence. I heard one father saying that a sexual abuser “stole his daughter’s innocence”, or something in a similar vein. While I’m sure he meant well, I’m not sure if these types of heavy-handed symbolic declarations are constructive for healing. I think sexual abuse could be prevented and its effects could be mitigated if people could have conversations (including with children) about healthy sexuality versus violence and coercion. Instead, some people seem more upset about the “sexual” side than the abuse side.