The claim in the post was “Alice claims she was sick with covid in a foreign country, with only the three Nonlinear cofounders around, but nobody in the house was willing to go out and get her vegan food, so she barely ate for 2 days.”. (Bolding added)
If you look at the chat messages, you’ll see we have screenshots demonstrating that:
1. There was vegan food in the house, which we offered her.
2. I personally went out, while I was sick myself, to buy vegan food for her (mashed potatoes) and cooked it for her and brought it to her.
I would be fine if she told people that she was hungry when she was sick, and she felt sad and stressed. Or that she was hungry but wasn’t interested in any of the food we had in the house and we didn’t get her Burger King.
But I think that there’s a big difference between telling everyone “I didn’t get the food I wanted, but they did get/offer to cook me vegan food, and I told them it was ok!” and “they refused to get me vegan food and I barely ate for 2 days”
I have sympathy for Alice. She was hungry (because of her fighting with a boyfriend [not Drew] in the morning and having a light breakfast) and she was sick. That sucks, and I feel for her. And that’s why I tried (and succeeded) in getting her vegan food.
In summary. “Alice claims she was sick with covid in a foreign country, with only the three Nonlinear cofounders around, but nobody in the house was willing to go out and get her vegan food, so she barely ate for 2 days.”. (Bolding added) This makes us sound like terrible people.
What actually happened: she was sick and hungry, and we offered to cook or bring over the vegan options in the house, then went out and bought and cooked her vegan food. We tried to take care of our sick friend (she wasn’t working for us at the time), and we fed her while she was sick.
I encourage you to read the full post here, where I’m trying to add more details and address more points as they come up.
Each time I see this comment pasted (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) I need to figure out whether to read through it to look for changes from the other times. What would you think of linking to your existing comments instead of pasting multiple duplicate comments?
(Also this one (6, 7) but since that’s only two it’s less of an issue)
Many people like me might only read one or two of these replies, and I at least find it easier to see the full thing written out even if there’s a lot of repetition.
Minor issue but I personally prefer in most cases to see things in t he body rather than have to follow a link, then having to find my way back to the original discussion afterwards.
I think it might be helpful to imagine what the forum would look like if this were a typical approach?
Also, consider what it does to the tree of the discussion: every duplicate comment forks the tree. Imagine I think there is something false in the comment that I think it’s readers should know. I write it on the first copy that appears, but every later copy will not have my response. I could try and track the copy-pasting and duplicate my response as well, but that requires manual tracking and is also even more noisy.
The claim in the post was “Alice claims she was sick with covid in a foreign country, with only the three Nonlinear cofounders around, but nobody in the house was willing to go out and get her vegan food, so she barely ate for 2 days.”. (Bolding added)
If you look at the chat messages, you’ll see we have screenshots demonstrating that:
1. There was vegan food in the house, which we offered her.
2. I personally went out, while I was sick myself, to buy vegan food for her (mashed potatoes) and cooked it for her and brought it to her.
I would be fine if she told people that she was hungry when she was sick, and she felt sad and stressed. Or that she was hungry but wasn’t interested in any of the food we had in the house and we didn’t get her Burger King.
But I think that there’s a big difference between telling everyone “I didn’t get the food I wanted, but they did get/offer to cook me vegan food, and I told them it was ok!” and “they refused to get me vegan food and I barely ate for 2 days”
I have sympathy for Alice. She was hungry (because of her fighting with a boyfriend [not Drew] in the morning and having a light breakfast) and she was sick. That sucks, and I feel for her. And that’s why I tried (and succeeded) in getting her vegan food.
In summary. “Alice claims she was sick with covid in a foreign country, with only the three Nonlinear cofounders around, but nobody in the house was willing to go out and get her vegan food, so she barely ate for 2 days.”. (Bolding added) This makes us sound like terrible people.
What actually happened: she was sick and hungry, and we offered to cook or bring over the vegan options in the house, then went out and bought and cooked her vegan food. We tried to take care of our sick friend (she wasn’t working for us at the time), and we fed her while she was sick.
I encourage you to read the full post here, where I’m trying to add more details and address more points as they come up.
Each time I see this comment pasted (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) I need to figure out whether to read through it to look for changes from the other times. What would you think of linking to your existing comments instead of pasting multiple duplicate comments?
(Also this one (6, 7) but since that’s only two it’s less of an issue)
Many people like me might only read one or two of these replies, and I at least find it easier to see the full thing written out even if there’s a lot of repetition.
Minor issue but I personally prefer in most cases to see things in t he body rather than have to follow a link, then having to find my way back to the original discussion afterwards.
Unless it’s pages long then I prefer a link.
I think it might be helpful to imagine what the forum would look like if this were a typical approach?
Also, consider what it does to the tree of the discussion: every duplicate comment forks the tree. Imagine I think there is something false in the comment that I think it’s readers should know. I write it on the first copy that appears, but every later copy will not have my response. I could try and track the copy-pasting and duplicate my response as well, but that requires manual tracking and is also even more noisy.
Thanks I didn’t think of that.
Maybe a bit of inconvenience for people like me is worth it to prevent potential mess like you say.