EA Dating Spreadsheet: see EA dating profiles
Update: somebody else made a better version except for a broader audience. You can still tag your profile as EA or rationalist so that others can find you or you can find other EAs. The original one is still available for people who’d only like to be seen by EAs.
TLDR: Browse the EA Dating Spreadsheet to see EA dating profiles (and add yourself!)
I get a warm fuzzy feeling when I see two really well-matched EAs together, but there’s currently no way to systematically find EAs on dating sites, and certainly no way to find all of the people who have the amazing “dating documents” that are becoming a thing in the community.
I threw this spreadsheet together in a couple of hours (1) to help fix that.
It’s simple. You can use it for two purposes:
Finding EAs. Look through it to find EAs dating profiles/dating documents
Helping EAs find you. Add a link to your own profile/document if you want to make it easier for other EAs to find you.
Enjoy! May you find love, lust, or whatever gives you utils.
Remember: only add your own profile to the spreadsheet. This is public, and only people who want to share their profile should do so.
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(1) Of note, this was done as a micro-project experiment, where I set a limit of how many hours I was allowed to work on it before I published it. There are a lot of things that could be improved, but this was just a fun project that I’m not going to spend more time on.
If you would like to improve on it, please make a copy of the spreadsheet, make the changes, then send the new version of the spreadsheet to me. If I like the changes, I’ll add it to the spreadsheet. I probably won’t accept changes to the platform itself (like changing it to Airtable or Notion) because that adds too much complexity.
This is a really valuable community service and I guess very cheap if anyone gets together via your spreadsheet. Thanks for doing it.
Amazing 🙂I can see this getting big so I can think of a couple helpful columns for sorting. Would you mind adding them?
1. “Willing to Relocate?” with drop-down options “yes,no,likely eventually”
2. “Relationship style” with dropdown options “polyamorous,monogamous,ambiamorous” (honestly I could get way more granular on this one but I guess this is okay)
3. “Wants kids?” with dropdown option “yes,no,undecided”
Edit: Saw your footnote about wanting other people to edit, made this tweaked copy for you to poach what you like (anyone else reading this, ignore this and use the original sheet):
https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1ID—eOZhyYnrqIGtYXPWLcWMe8VuMHMYO6dmeqVJX44/edit?usp=sharing
Added mine. :)
Sorry, couldn’t resist. Glanced at the spreadsheet:
Gender Man Man Man Man Man Man Man Man Man Man Man Man Woman Man
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(joke yes yes. or maybe… hmm...)
Yeah there are more men in EA but notice this: you can have a gender ratio of 54% men, 46% women and have 9x as many single men if 45% of men and 45% of women are partnered already. Looking at single people only amplifies gender ratio.
Aside: this is also why there are so many guys in the Bay Area complaining they can’t find a girlfriend vs places like Boston even though the overall gender ratio isn’t that much different.
I don’t get this—I posted it as a comment and the post itself went like −2 but was like +3 or something… Causality, correlation? Shall I delete it? Just a joke folks, so strange, people don’t want to discuss dating …
And now it’s +8
Maybe I’m just seeing things that are not there, oh la la
I wrote something about empathy and strength, vibes and rationality, maybe that helps (“left and right brain”, not taken well by modern neuroscientists, treat it as an abstraction rather than direct mapping)
I feel and think I need both. With only the left brain I forget about now (like now, not “what my actions would give” or “what happened in the past when similar actions were taken”). And I not see some options available if I forget the now. With only the right brain I forget about systems that sometimes help. Left brain implements models, right brain tunes and “reloads” them when they become too bloated, too contradictory and need new axioms. Those spiritual vibes (can be seen instantiated in music styles, for example) can be seen as different “cultures” of axiom-building. That’s why people who recover from trauma (like me) talk about spirituality and vibes—old axioms went into contradictions and couldn’t explain or predict or give actions to adapt to the environment. So it’s time for music and new axioms.
LRLRLR
Such an oh la la, I feel and think that EA forum needs more jokes or it’s only L and no R