We also show text messages of us encouraging them to invite people over. We even have text messages showing me encouraging Chloe to see her boyfriend sooner and her saying no. Alice invited multiple friends to travel with us. When Chloe quit one of her friends was visiting us for 2-4 weeks (can’t quite remember). To be fair, that friend we invited. But if she’d invited him, we would have been thrilled.
Their portrayal of us saying that only me and Emerson could invite people to travel with us is clearly established to be false.
On this point, your reply seems very compelling to me. ((Though it’s at least imaginable that Chloe would point out ways in which this is misleading – e.g., maybe her bf had “EA potential” or got along well with Emerson or you and some other friends of hers didn’t, and maybe someone made comments about her other friends. Idk.))
I think it’s important to not hold people to unreasonable standards when they try to present a lot of evidence. If this (the invites allowed list) is one of only few instances where it’s overstated how important a particular piece of evidence is, then that’s still totally compatible with a high degree of objectivity!
I overall felt like there were some other places where I was uncertain how much to update, while your wording “wanted” me to make a very big update. But I also think these things can be hard to judge.
This on its own, maybe. But Chloe’s boyfriend was invited to travel with us for 2 of the 5 months she was with us, and we were about to invite him to travel with us indefinitely, free of charge. That’s a hard to fake signal that she was more than welcome to invite friends and family.
We also show text messages of us encouraging them to invite people over. We even have text messages showing me encouraging Chloe to see her boyfriend sooner and her saying no. Alice invited multiple friends to travel with us. When Chloe quit one of her friends was visiting us for 2-4 weeks (can’t quite remember). To be fair, that friend we invited. But if she’d invited him, we would have been thrilled.
Their portrayal of us saying that only me and Emerson could invite people to travel with us is clearly established to be false.
On this point, your reply seems very compelling to me. ((Though it’s at least imaginable that Chloe would point out ways in which this is misleading – e.g., maybe her bf had “EA potential” or got along well with Emerson or you and some other friends of hers didn’t, and maybe someone made comments about her other friends. Idk.))
I think it’s important to not hold people to unreasonable standards when they try to present a lot of evidence. If this (the invites allowed list) is one of only few instances where it’s overstated how important a particular piece of evidence is, then that’s still totally compatible with a high degree of objectivity!
I overall felt like there were some other places where I was uncertain how much to update, while your wording “wanted” me to make a very big update. But I also think these things can be hard to judge.