Thank you! This definitely seems like highly relevant evidence.
Can you clarify whether Kelsey’s summary of the December 15th conversation is accurate or inaccurate? It’s totally possible that I am misreading the screenshots, though my best interpretation was indeed the interpretation that Kelsey made in the screenshots.
I would be happy to correct the statement above if I am wrong here.
I do think this issue seems somewhat separate from the question of “did the screenshots that were shared with us materially affect the things Ben wrote?”.
To be clear, this is relevant in as much as the original screenshot was evidence of there being more things you could share here, though I currently maintain that I don’t think the screenshots that were shared with us showed any material error (given that Kelsey also walked away with the same impression of them being consistent).
I also totally care about just setting the record straight and getting the object-level issue right here, and in as much as there isn’t anything very weird going on with the screenshots you sent, I think you provided pretty decent proof here and am changing my mind on the December 15th issue (and think if you had shared those screenshots with us instead, I think it’s pretty likely Ben would have somehow made sure that they made it into the post).
Kelsey’s summary was wrong in a number of important ways.
She missed the fact that we did indeed succeed in getting her vegan food (I found at the nearby store, despite being sick myself). 2.5 hours after we first offered. And it would have been faster if she’d wanted any of the food in the house, or chosen a restaurant that had vegan options for Emerson and Drew to go to.
It doesn’t mention the vegan food that was in the house already that I offered to cook (Alice ate oatmeal almost every day and she loved quinoa. Later when I cooked some up for her, she loved it, like usual, cause quinoa is the Queen of All Foods).
It doesn’t mention that Drew said he would go to any restaurant within a 12 minute drive from our place and she just… didn’t choose a restaurant. She only wanted fast food. So they ended up choosing a restaurant that didn’t happen to have vegan options aside from the usual fries.
A quick look at Google Maps shows that there was over 20 restaurants that fit that criteria in the area. It wasn’t restrictive at all.
She frames it as they didn’t get her the food she wanted “because they [didn’t] want to get fast food.” It’s important to note that Emerson and Drew also are people whose preferences matter. Just because Alice is sick doesn’t mean everybody has to drop their own needs and preferences to get her the very particular food she wants.
She frames it as Emerson and Drew being somehow inconsiderate and shallow, when you could just as easily frame it as Alice not considering the needs or preferences of anybody but herself, expecting everybody to drop everything and go out of their way so she can get the very specific fast food she wants. Then, when she doesn’t get exactly what she wants as fast as she wants, she goes around telling lies about what happened to destroy a charity (e.g. nobody willing to get her food)
As for what Ben knew before publishing, if you look at that screenshot, you can see that:
Drew has offered to pick her up food (“Drew suggested he could otherwise pick up stuff”)
Me and Emerson offered to pick her up food (“Me and Emerson can do it if he can’t”)
I offered to cook her the food in the house (“Could make you some quinoa”)
Ben said in his post that “nobody in the house was willing to go out and get her vegan food”. This is absolutely false. Ben had seen this screenshot clearly showing that we were willing to go out and get her food.
Note that she didn’t even ask for food. I just offered because I could see she was in need (“want me to order food?”)
It also said “so she barely ate for 2 days”. It shows in the messages that there was vegan food in the house. So that was clearly not the reason she didn’t eat for days.
She had plenty of options but she wanted fast food in particular.
We got her her first choice of fast food the very next day (remember, she only started asking for food in the evening the previous day. It was also hard to get stuff for her. This was our first experience with covid and we were trying to figure out how to manage it, try to have it not spread, etc etc. It was quite a stressful and overwhelming time.).
Because she didn’t get a very particular fast food as fast as she wanted, she interpreted this as us being heartless people who wouldn’t take care of a sick person in need. She told Ben a false and misleading story about us not being willing to go out and get food for her.
Thank you! This definitely seems like highly relevant evidence.
Can you clarify whether Kelsey’s summary of the December 15th conversation is accurate or inaccurate? It’s totally possible that I am misreading the screenshots, though my best interpretation was indeed the interpretation that Kelsey made in the screenshots.
I would be happy to correct the statement above if I am wrong here.
I do think this issue seems somewhat separate from the question of “did the screenshots that were shared with us materially affect the things Ben wrote?”.
To be clear, this is relevant in as much as the original screenshot was evidence of there being more things you could share here, though I currently maintain that I don’t think the screenshots that were shared with us showed any material error (given that Kelsey also walked away with the same impression of them being consistent).
I also totally care about just setting the record straight and getting the object-level issue right here, and in as much as there isn’t anything very weird going on with the screenshots you sent, I think you provided pretty decent proof here and am changing my mind on the December 15th issue (and think if you had shared those screenshots with us instead, I think it’s pretty likely Ben would have somehow made sure that they made it into the post).
Kelsey’s summary was wrong in a number of important ways.
She missed the fact that we did indeed succeed in getting her vegan food (I found at the nearby store, despite being sick myself). 2.5 hours after we first offered. And it would have been faster if she’d wanted any of the food in the house, or chosen a restaurant that had vegan options for Emerson and Drew to go to.
It doesn’t mention the vegan food that was in the house already that I offered to cook (Alice ate oatmeal almost every day and she loved quinoa. Later when I cooked some up for her, she loved it, like usual, cause quinoa is the Queen of All Foods).
It doesn’t mention that Drew said he would go to any restaurant within a 12 minute drive from our place and she just… didn’t choose a restaurant. She only wanted fast food. So they ended up choosing a restaurant that didn’t happen to have vegan options aside from the usual fries.
A quick look at Google Maps shows that there was over 20 restaurants that fit that criteria in the area. It wasn’t restrictive at all.
She frames it as they didn’t get her the food she wanted “because they [didn’t] want to get fast food.” It’s important to note that Emerson and Drew also are people whose preferences matter. Just because Alice is sick doesn’t mean everybody has to drop their own needs and preferences to get her the very particular food she wants.
She frames it as Emerson and Drew being somehow inconsiderate and shallow, when you could just as easily frame it as Alice not considering the needs or preferences of anybody but herself, expecting everybody to drop everything and go out of their way so she can get the very specific fast food she wants. Then, when she doesn’t get exactly what she wants as fast as she wants, she goes around telling lies about what happened to destroy a charity (e.g. nobody willing to get her food)
As for what Ben knew before publishing, if you look at that screenshot, you can see that:
Drew has offered to pick her up food (“Drew suggested he could otherwise pick up stuff”)
Me and Emerson offered to pick her up food (“Me and Emerson can do it if he can’t”)
I offered to cook her the food in the house (“Could make you some quinoa”)
Ben said in his post that “nobody in the house was willing to go out and get her vegan food”. This is absolutely false. Ben had seen this screenshot clearly showing that we were willing to go out and get her food.
Note that she didn’t even ask for food. I just offered because I could see she was in need (“want me to order food?”)
It also said “so she barely ate for 2 days”. It shows in the messages that there was vegan food in the house. So that was clearly not the reason she didn’t eat for days.
She had plenty of options but she wanted fast food in particular.
We got her her first choice of fast food the very next day (remember, she only started asking for food in the evening the previous day. It was also hard to get stuff for her. This was our first experience with covid and we were trying to figure out how to manage it, try to have it not spread, etc etc. It was quite a stressful and overwhelming time.).
Because she didn’t get a very particular fast food as fast as she wanted, she interpreted this as us being heartless people who wouldn’t take care of a sick person in need. She told Ben a false and misleading story about us not being willing to go out and get food for her.