Having thought a bit more about this, maybe “listen. listen. listen”. I think I’m often incurious about the feelings of others, perhaps because I don’t really expect myself to understand what upset them. Easier for me, sometimes to come up with a hard and fast rule “ask before you touch people” “don’t flirt at this event” than to really get it.
I guess I could just pay a lot more attention to why people are upset in the first place. And perhaps sort of give up on really understanding in order to just listen. That’s my current approach anyway.
Having thought a bit more about this, maybe “listen. listen. listen”. I think I’m often incurious about the feelings of others, perhaps because I don’t really expect myself to understand what upset them. Easier for me, sometimes to come up with a hard and fast rule “ask before you touch people” “don’t flirt at this event” than to really get it.
I guess I could just pay a lot more attention to why people are upset in the first place. And perhaps sort of give up on really understanding in order to just listen. That’s my current approach anyway.