I think something like 30% hugboxing is good. I think that the cases where you see it maybe it could happen less, but a lot of the time I think we are too brutal to non-rationalist critics.
It’s really tiring to criticise and I think it’s nice to have someone listen and engage at least a bit. If I move straight to “here is how I disagree” I think I lose out on useful criticism in the long run.
But that’s conditional on people not interpreting the hugboxing as a tactic/weird norm. E.g. mormon missionaries being nice to people doesn’t elicit the same response as a person off the street because they adjust their set point.
Can you give examples of hugboxing you don’t like?
Because my internal response is “people think we are too aggressive/dismissive” rather than “people think we listen to them but in a weird/patronising way” and if you mean internally you don’t like it, then I am confused as to why you read it.
I think something like 30% hugboxing is good. I think that the cases where you see it maybe it could happen less, but a lot of the time I think we are too brutal to non-rationalist critics.
It’s really tiring to criticise and I think it’s nice to have someone listen and engage at least a bit. If I move straight to “here is how I disagree” I think I lose out on useful criticism in the long run.
But that’s conditional on people not interpreting the hugboxing as a tactic/weird norm. E.g. mormon missionaries being nice to people doesn’t elicit the same response as a person off the street because they adjust their set point.
Can you give examples of hugboxing you don’t like?
Because my internal response is “people think we are too aggressive/dismissive” rather than “people think we listen to them but in a weird/patronising way” and if you mean internally you don’t like it, then I am confused as to why you read it.
On the forum I agree hugboxing is worse.