I agree with the take that there’s nothing inherently wrong in polyamory. I think what the author is highlighting is the practice of excusing shitty behavior under the guise of polyamory (the “Jedi mind tricks” they’re referring to). Impressionable people are convinced to override their intuitions about what a healthy and respectful intimate relationship looks like by people with more power that claim to have more advanced thinking about sex and pair bonding.
It’s not the author’s fault that polyamory is being co-opted this way, they’re merely the canary in the coal mine. There are further explorations outside of EA on how concepts of polyamory have been used for abuse, for example here: https://www.polyfor.us/articles/more-than-two-metoo-response
I agree with the take that there’s nothing inherently wrong in polyamory. I think what the author is highlighting is the practice of excusing shitty behavior under the guise of polyamory (the “Jedi mind tricks” they’re referring to). Impressionable people are convinced to override their intuitions about what a healthy and respectful intimate relationship looks like by people with more power that claim to have more advanced thinking about sex and pair bonding.
It’s not the author’s fault that polyamory is being co-opted this way, they’re merely the canary in the coal mine. There are further explorations outside of EA on how concepts of polyamory have been used for abuse, for example here: https://www.polyfor.us/articles/more-than-two-metoo-response