I think those who like this idea are suggesting a huge and powerful norm. And my pretty huge and pretty powerful norm is being rejected because it would be “awkward and uncomfortable”. I think that misses the point that the original norm is even worse. Again, I sense that a poll of women in EA might reveal that even if we only consider their preferences they aren’t pro “non-neurotypical and high status men in the community cannot have casual sex”. But that’s a guess I could be wrong.
For clarity’s sake, I don’t think “socially clumsy” and “non-neurotypical” are identical. There are plenty of neurotypical people who are socially clumsy, and there are also some non-neurotypical people who are not socially clumsy. People also often change in their social clumsiness (typically from clumsy to not clumsy), and it can depend on context (perhaps two people who are socially clumsy in a similar way would actually find each other to be less socially clumsy). I won’t pretend there’s no correlation to neurotypicality, but I just thought I’d clarify this in case anyone thought I was trying to dog whistle.
Also “cannot have casual sex” is stronger than what I think. I don’t think there should be an explicit ban. I do think people should at least consider the negatives and possibly choose personally to avoid it. I’m somewhat uncertain about my views on a softer norm and I think that may depends more on the specifics.
I feel frustrated. Sign.
I think those who like this idea are suggesting a huge and powerful norm. And my pretty huge and pretty powerful norm is being rejected because it would be “awkward and uncomfortable”. I think that misses the point that the original norm is even worse. Again, I sense that a poll of women in EA might reveal that even if we only consider their preferences they aren’t pro “non-neurotypical and high status men in the community cannot have casual sex”. But that’s a guess I could be wrong.
For clarity’s sake, I don’t think “socially clumsy” and “non-neurotypical” are identical. There are plenty of neurotypical people who are socially clumsy, and there are also some non-neurotypical people who are not socially clumsy. People also often change in their social clumsiness (typically from clumsy to not clumsy), and it can depend on context (perhaps two people who are socially clumsy in a similar way would actually find each other to be less socially clumsy). I won’t pretend there’s no correlation to neurotypicality, but I just thought I’d clarify this in case anyone thought I was trying to dog whistle.
Also “cannot have casual sex” is stronger than what I think. I don’t think there should be an explicit ban. I do think people should at least consider the negatives and possibly choose personally to avoid it. I’m somewhat uncertain about my views on a softer norm and I think that may depends more on the specifics.