Honestly I don’t know why most people doesn’t make more effort to live with their friends and other people they deeply respect. We naturally spend much of our time with our housemates, yet so many people live alone or with randoms. When I ask people why, often its just because they didn’t plan or put in the effort, rather than an intentional decision not to. My 3 years living in an intentional community were life-changing and I regretted not living like that earlier. We were pretty hardcore at your level 4.
People sometimes fear losing friendships or messing up relationships by living with their friends, but I think this is misplaced. Two people I lived with found me really hard to live with (I loved living with them :D) but despite that I would say living with them only strengthened our friendship after we stopped living together. Also what kind of friendship can’t sustain living together for a year? It’s not like you’re committing to marriage
Thanks so much for this post, I think you’ve captured the important points super well and this is an underappreciated awesome thing to do!
Honestly I don’t know why most people doesn’t make more effort to live with their friends and other people they deeply respect. We naturally spend much of our time with our housemates, yet so many people live alone or with randoms. When I ask people why, often its just because they didn’t plan or put in the effort, rather than an intentional decision not to. My 3 years living in an intentional community were life-changing and I regretted not living like that earlier. We were pretty hardcore at your level 4.
People sometimes fear losing friendships or messing up relationships by living with their friends, but I think this is misplaced. Two people I lived with found me really hard to live with (I loved living with them :D) but despite that I would say living with them only strengthened our friendship after we stopped living together. Also what kind of friendship can’t sustain living together for a year? It’s not like you’re committing to marriage
Thanks so much for this post, I think you’ve captured the important points super well and this is an underappreciated awesome thing to do!