Despite widespread agreement with the principle, I find this pretty rare to happen in practice. Do you have ideas for how this could become a more catchy social convention?
It’s definitely rare in practice. I’d imagine that we could change this by using some kind of stock phrase that works as a “pause” button in a conversation.
For example: “I hear what you’re saying. But before we get farther, can I share what I thought coming into the conversation? I’m already starting to change my mind, but I think it would be useful to clarify where we both started.”
But that’s pretty long, so hopefully we could eventually condense the idea to something like “let’s both give our impressions before we update” or “tell me what you think, I’ll tell you what I’ve been thinking, and then we can talk it out”. Or someone can come up with a catchy acronym!
Despite widespread agreement with the principle, I find this pretty rare to happen in practice. Do you have ideas for how this could become a more catchy social convention?
It’s definitely rare in practice. I’d imagine that we could change this by using some kind of stock phrase that works as a “pause” button in a conversation.
For example: “I hear what you’re saying. But before we get farther, can I share what I thought coming into the conversation? I’m already starting to change my mind, but I think it would be useful to clarify where we both started.”
But that’s pretty long, so hopefully we could eventually condense the idea to something like “let’s both give our impressions before we update” or “tell me what you think, I’ll tell you what I’ve been thinking, and then we can talk it out”. Or someone can come up with a catchy acronym!