I was reading Lifeblood by Alex Perry (it details the story of malaria bed nets). The book initially criticizes a lot of aid organizations because Perry claims that the aim of aid should be “for the day it’s no longer needed”. E.g., the goal of the Canadian Cancer Society should be to aim for the day when cancer research is unnecessary because we’ve already figured out how to beat it. However, what aid organizations actually do is expand to fill a whole range of other needs, which is somewhat suboptimal.
In this case, EA is really no exception. Suppose that in the future, we’ve tackled global poverty, animal welfare, and climate change/AI risk/etc. We would just move on to the next most important thing in EA. Of course, EA is separate from classical aid organizations, because it’s closer to a movement/philosophy than a single aid effort. Nevertheless, I still think it might be useful to define “winning” as “alleviating a need for something”. This could be something like “to reach a day when we no longer need to support GiveDirectly [because we’ve already eliminated poverty/destitution/because we’ve reached a quality of wealth redistribution such that nobody is living below X dollars a year].”
I’m actively choosing not to go out with people who I don’t find particularly interesting or fun (i.e., people in the “they’re nice” category, but who either aren’t really interested in the type of discussion I want to have, are really judgemental/cynical about trying new things, etc.). Before, I’d feel like I needed to be nice and make friends with everybody or I’d be a mean person, but as my social circle has expanded and the number of things I’ve wanted to do has increased, I’ve become more selective.
Oddly, this has actually made me enjoy meeting new people much more. I’m always willing to give the benefit of the doubt that I could have a really good conversation, or really good connection, with someone I haven’t met—but am not too disappointed, and don’t feel “guilted” into spending time with someone, if I don’t.