My personal view is that being an EA implies spending some significant portion of your efforts being (or aspiring to be) particularly effective in your altruism, but it doesn’t by any means demand you spend all your efforts doing so. I’d seriously worry about the movement if there was some expectation that EAs devote themselves completely to EA projects and neglect things like self-care and personal connections (even if there was an exception for self-care & connections insofar as they help one be more effective in their altruism).
It sounds like you developed a personal connection with this particular dog rather quickly, and while this might be unusual, I wouldn’t consider it a fault. At the same time, while I don’t see a problem with EAs engaging in that sort of partiality with those they connect with, I would worry a bit if you were making the case that this sort of behavior was in itself an act of effective altruism, as I think prioritization, impartiality, and good epistemics are really important to exhibit when engaged in EA projects. (Incidentally, this is one further reason I’d worry if there was an expectation that EAs devote themselves completely to EA projects – I think this would lead to more backwards rationalizations about why various acts people want to do are actually EA projects when they’re not, and this would hurt epistemics and so on.) But you don’t really seem to be doing that.
I feel like this post is doing something I really don’t like, which I’d categorize as something like “instead of trying to persuade with arguments, using rhetorical tricks to define terms in such a way that the other side is stuck defending a loaded concept and has an unjustified uphill battle.”
For instance:
I mean, no, that’s just not how the term is usually used. It’s misleading to hide your beliefs in that way, and you could argue it’s dishonest, but it’s not generally what people would call a “lie” (or if they did, they’d use the phrase “lie by omission”). One could argue that lies by omission are no less bad than lies by commission, but I think this is at least nonobvious, and also a view that I’m pretty sure most people don’t hold. You could have written this post with words like “mislead” or “act coyly about true beliefs” instead of “lie”, and I think that would have made this post substantially better.
I also feel like the piece weirdly implies that it’s dishonest to advocate for a policy that you think is second best. Like, this just doesn’t follow – someone could, for instance, want a $20/hr minimum wage, and advocate for a $15/hr minimum wage based on the idea that it’s more politically feasible, and this isn’t remotely dishonest unless they’re being dishonest about their preference for $20/hr in other communications. You say:
but this simply isn’t contradictory – you could think a perfect society would pause but that RSPs are still good and make more sense to advocate for given the political reality of our society.