Jeff was probably not asking what âsacred cowâ means; more likely the question was asking in what way polyamory is a sacred cow of EA.
I will grant that EA is more tolerant of most personal traits than society typically is, and therefore is more supportive of polyamory than other groups just by not being against it, but itâs not anywhere in any canonical EA materials, and certainly not a sacred cow. Plenty of EAs are criticizing it in this very thread.
Could you clarify what concretely you do want to happen, then, if not less tolerance of polyamory? What would be different, if polyamory was not a sacred cow? What are the possible conclusions we could come to after reflecting on this?
I donât have a particular agenda about âwhat should happenâ here. Iâve said we should scrutinize the ways that polyamorous norms could be abused in high trust communities. Iâm not sure what the outcome would be, but I would certainly hope itâs not intolerance of poly communities.
I would readily agree that someâperhaps mostâof these problems could also be solved by ensuring EA spaces are purely professional, but it does seem a bit obtuse to not understand that someone could feel more uncomfortable when asked to join a polycule at an EA meet up than simply being asked on a date.
I think an ideal outcome would to reduce the association between EA and polyâsuch that poly is not a major cultural touchstone within EAâwhile keeping EA a welcoming and respectful place for poly people.
Iâm not sure what you mean by this?
Something that is above question or criticism or question (see here), in this case because discourse is often cast as intolerant or phobic
Jeff was probably not asking what âsacred cowâ means; more likely the question was asking in what way polyamory is a sacred cow of EA. I will grant that EA is more tolerant of most personal traits than society typically is, and therefore is more supportive of polyamory than other groups just by not being against it, but itâs not anywhere in any canonical EA materials, and certainly not a sacred cow. Plenty of EAs are criticizing it in this very thread.
This seems a bit obtuse. In any local EA community Iâve been a part of, poly plays a big part in the culture.
This is sort of true, but most of them are receiving a lot of downvotes. And this is the first time Iâve seen a proper discussion about it.
It literally is intolerant. Like if you are saying âwe shouldnât tolerate this in the communityâ, that just is intolerant.
Ok, fortunately that is not what I am saying.
Could you clarify what concretely you do want to happen, then, if not less tolerance of polyamory? What would be different, if polyamory was not a sacred cow? What are the possible conclusions we could come to after reflecting on this?
I donât have a particular agenda about âwhat should happenâ here. Iâve said we should scrutinize the ways that polyamorous norms could be abused in high trust communities. Iâm not sure what the outcome would be, but I would certainly hope itâs not intolerance of poly communities.
I would readily agree that someâperhaps mostâof these problems could also be solved by ensuring EA spaces are purely professional, but it does seem a bit obtuse to not understand that someone could feel more uncomfortable when asked to join a polycule at an EA meet up than simply being asked on a date.
I think an ideal outcome would to reduce the association between EA and polyâsuch that poly is not a major cultural touchstone within EAâwhile keeping EA a welcoming and respectful place for poly people.