Hmm I disagree. I’m not a fan of making it a norm for someone to reply to me, feels icky and I don’t think anyone has responsibility to message me back unless we’ve scheduled something beforehand.
I empathise with the awkwardness of trying to reach out again but something like ‘Hey I tried reaching you at EAG: London, but didn’t get a response. No pressure but if you’d have time at this EAGx to have a chat I’d love to. Some things I’d like to get out of our conversation: X, Y, Z….’ could be reasonable way of dealing with this.
Speaking for myself, I’m not sure I count as “high-profile” but if I didn’t respond to your message at an EAG, you’re more than welcome to message again at a next EAG. Even if I’m too busy (or stressed, introverted, sad, etc) to get to your message in one EAG, it doesn’t mean I won’t be able to triage your message in a different EAG.
Also often both my needs and other people’s needs change and I might be a better fit for them (and vice versa), for example if somebody generically wants career advice I might be less helpful than if there’s a specific project I’m working on that they want to help with, or if a donor wants to talk through donation options I’m a better fit during some months than others, etc.
I am roughly as high-profile as Linch (if we use Forum karma as a proxy, and why wouldn’t we?). Everything he says here also fits how I engage with EAG messages.
The title made me think it would be about No Shows to confirmed 1-on-1 appointments, which I could certainly see meriting an apology. But I think here you’re talking about people sending a meeting request plus a message and not getting a response or confirmation. I agree people mostly get overwhelmed. Your solution, of messaging afterwards to get back to people, seems reasonable. Though a lot of people feel burnt out after EAGs and are wont to go back on the app.
Upvoted for pointing out that replying to people is a nice thing to do.
But I disagree with “norm” — I prefer the framing “this is an especially nice thing to do”, where “norm” feels more like “you’ve done something a bit wrong by failing to do this”. (How people ;interpret the term will vary, of course, it’s possible you meant the former.)
An easier approach might be to mention on your Swapcard profile that you may not be able to respond to everyone who reaches out before the conference.
Hmm I disagree. I’m not a fan of making it a norm for someone to reply to me, feels icky and I don’t think anyone has responsibility to message me back unless we’ve scheduled something beforehand.
I empathise with the awkwardness of trying to reach out again but something like ‘Hey I tried reaching you at EAG: London, but didn’t get a response. No pressure but if you’d have time at this EAGx to have a chat I’d love to. Some things I’d like to get out of our conversation: X, Y, Z….’ could be reasonable way of dealing with this.
Speaking for myself, I’m not sure I count as “high-profile” but if I didn’t respond to your message at an EAG, you’re more than welcome to message again at a next EAG. Even if I’m too busy (or stressed, introverted, sad, etc) to get to your message in one EAG, it doesn’t mean I won’t be able to triage your message in a different EAG.
Also often both my needs and other people’s needs change and I might be a better fit for them (and vice versa), for example if somebody generically wants career advice I might be less helpful than if there’s a specific project I’m working on that they want to help with, or if a donor wants to talk through donation options I’m a better fit during some months than others, etc.
I am roughly as high-profile as Linch (if we use Forum karma as a proxy, and why wouldn’t we?). Everything he says here also fits how I engage with EAG messages.
The title made me think it would be about No Shows to confirmed 1-on-1 appointments, which I could certainly see meriting an apology. But I think here you’re talking about people sending a meeting request plus a message and not getting a response or confirmation. I agree people mostly get overwhelmed. Your solution, of messaging afterwards to get back to people, seems reasonable. Though a lot of people feel burnt out after EAGs and are wont to go back on the app.
Upvoted for pointing out that replying to people is a nice thing to do.
But I disagree with “norm” — I prefer the framing “this is an especially nice thing to do”, where “norm” feels more like “you’ve done something a bit wrong by failing to do this”. (How people ;interpret the term will vary, of course, it’s possible you meant the former.)