I want to point out to you that regardless of whether Torres is worth engaging with or not, misgendering them like this signals lack of cooperativeness to the several queer and trans* ‘EAs’ who have nothing to do with the issue (which is fine, as long as you really intend to be uncooperative with them, in which case doing so helps them get accurate maps of who is worth working with for the future lightcone and who is not).
I am in favor of respecting people’s pronouns (within reason) and am against deadnaming (as long as its not used to avoid past misdoings, which doesn’t seem to be the case this time), so I think the deadnaming seems bad either way, but I just remember the pronoun situation being a bit more confusing.
I want to point out to you that regardless of whether Torres is worth engaging with or not, misgendering them like this signals lack of cooperativeness to the several queer and trans* ‘EAs’ who have nothing to do with the issue (which is fine, as long as you really intend to be uncooperative with them, in which case doing so helps them get accurate maps of who is worth working with for the future lightcone and who is not).
not fine IMO
Sorry, not fine what?
I assume Peter means it’s not fine to signal the lack of cooperativeness you describe above
I thought when we had that discussion last time the gender preferences for Torres were super confusing, and it’s pretty plausible they are OK being referred to by”he/him”?
I am in favor of respecting people’s pronouns (within reason) and am against deadnaming (as long as its not used to avoid past misdoings, which doesn’t seem to be the case this time), so I think the deadnaming seems bad either way, but I just remember the pronoun situation being a bit more confusing.
Torres is now fully they/them I think
Cool, makes sense. It does look like at least their FB profile is updated and doesn’t like “he/him” pronouns anymore.