Fellas, just don’t engage w/ Phil Torres, the guy has a personality disorder. If you want good-faith criticism of EA this ain’t it. The guy has tweeted about how everyone would be better off dead and engages in chronic self-destructive behaviour like binge drinking, giving all his money to random strangers, etc, etc. All the “I hate you don’t leave me” stuff w/ his ex-gf is also classic personality disorder stuff. He’s a screwed up guy. Don’t give him the benefit of the doubt! Don’t engage!
(edit: or, if you do engage, for once this is a great time to play the man not the ball and actually point out why his criticisms can’t be taken seriously because they come from such an obviously messed-up bad-faith actor)
Writing as a moderator. I think this comment is unnecessarily harsh and insulting, and also deadnames and misgenders Torres. It clearly violates Forum norms.
We generally assume that deadnaming or misgendering is an honest mistake, but given that the discussion around this post has been referring to Torres by their preferred name and pronouns, I find this less plausible.
I also find the focus on mental illness inappropriate.
Please correct the name and pronouns in this comment. I’ll be discussing with the rest of the moderation about potential further action.
I also find the focus on mental illness inappropriate.
And yet it transmits information. Sabs also has recently be making a number of harsh and sharp statements, some of which have been downvoted but which I nonetheless have found valuable. I’d encourage the moderators to be lenient.
I love how “the community’s second biggest funder turns out to be a scam artist” does not even prompt the slightest reconsideration of the value of people being able to call out bad actors when they see them, nope, we’re just going to double-down on this absurd and comical set of community politeness norms that do little but enable savvy predators to exploit EA as a movement and individual EAs as people.
And fwiw, there were a number of other conclusions I could have very easily drawn about Torres and signs of mental illness I could have pointed out, but I very carefully did not since I thought those might be upsetting. This was the toned-down version of my original post.
Do you know that they have a personality disorder? I don’t see how pushing back on internet strangers making claims about others’ mental state is an “absurd and comical set of community politeness norm.”
I agree that Torres is clearly acting in bad faith, and I think many EAs already know this. But even if they didn’t, the justification for them being a bad faith actor is NOT because of your assumption of their personality disorder or mental illness, nor their personal problems with their ex-partner. So yes, this “transmits information”, but not anything that’s relevant to how we should respond. We should choose not engage because they act in bad faith, not because you think they have a mental illness. We should think they act in bad faith because of the quality of their writing and choice of argument, not because they have problems with their ex-partner. And in this specific case, it’s very easy to show they act in bad faith without resorting to those kinds of claims.
You should also know, that by making this statement, you have in fact given them more fodder to use against EA.
Man, this sure is a dicy topic, but I do think it’s pretty likely that Torres has a personality disorder, and that modeling these kinds of things is often important.
A while ago we had a conversation on the forum on whether Elon Musk might be (at least somewhat) autistic. A number of people pushed back on this as ungrounded speculation and as irrelevant in a way that seemed highly confused to me, since like, being autistic has huge effects on how you make decisions and how you relate to the world, and Musk has been a relevant player in many EA-adjacent cause areas for quite a while.
I do think there is some trickiness in talking about this kind of stuff, but talking about someone’s internal mental makeup can often be really important. Indeed, lots of people were saying to me in-person that they were modeling SBF as a sociopath, and implying that they would not feel comfortable giving that description in public, since that’s rude. I think in this case that diagnosis sure would have been really helpful and I think our norms against bringing up this kind of stuff harmed us quite a bit.
To be clear I am not advocating for a culture of psychologizing everyone. I think that’s terrible, and a lot of the worse interactions I’ve had with people external to the community have been people who have tried to dismiss various risks from artificial intelligence through various psychologizing lenses like “these people are power-obsessed, which is why they think an AI will want to dominate everyone”, which… are really not helpful and seem just straightforwardly very wrong to me, while also being very hard to respond to.
I don’t currently have a great proposal for norms for discussing this kind of stuff, especially as an attack (I feel less bad about the Elon autism discussion, since like, Elon identifies at least partially as autistic and I don’t think he would see it as an insult). Seems hard. My current guess is that it must be OK to at some point, after engaging extensively with someone’s object-level arguments, to bring up more psychologizing explanations and intuitions, but that it currently should come pretty late, after the object-level has been responded to and relatively thoroughly explored. I think this is the case with Torres, but not the case with many other people.
What does “personality disorder” tell you that “habitual liar with a grudge” doesn’t?
What does “sociopath” tell you that “habitual liar who casually exploits other people” doesn’t? (Or “un-lawful oathbreaker”?)
What prediction would you make about Torres based on psychologizing that you wouldn’t be able to make using the information that led you to psychologize in the first place?
What does “sociopath” tell you that “habitual liar who casually exploits other people” doesn’t? (Or “un-lawful oathbreaker”?)
These all are in the same reference class in my mind, so I don’t really know what you are referring to. Of these “sociopath” is the shortest, though relatedly also the lossiest (like, it sure is a frequently misused concept, but also, my guess is its vaguely mapping to something real in the world, despite me despising like 90% of the times that it is used).
What prediction would you make about Torres based on psychologizing that you wouldn’t be able to make using the information that led you to psychologize in the first place?
For example, let’s assume that (I do not have strong evidence for it, but it seems at least vaguely plausible to me) that Torres suffers from psychotic episodes. By observing their behavior over the course of a few years, and e.g. seeing whether they have used anti-psychotic medication in the past, I come to the conclusion that it’s the case that there are some periods in which interfacing with Torres will reliably go bad, and in which their behavior will be erratic, and some other periods in which they will probably be pretty sane.
This seems really helpful to me! If I am now engaging with Torres online or in-person, I might find myself having a surprisingly good and calm conversation, but if the person often has psychotic episodes, then we should expect the behavior during the good times to generalize less well to their behavior during bad times.
Again, this is all a hypothetical, I don’t think I have much of any evidence to suggest that Torres has psychotic episodes, but I do think that considering the hypothesis and thinking about it can pay off pretty well.
As another concrete example, there were 2-3 commenters over the years on LW whose behavior was best explained by realizing that they are bipolar, and when they were in a manic episode, they would write very differently and engage very differently than if they were in a depressive episode (or in no episode at all). One thing that actually helped a good amount in two of those cases was sending a message being like “Hey, btw, I think you are having a manic episode (I saw on your blog that you said you were bipolar). I would suggest maybe taking a step back from commenting until you are in a better place”, and that (surprisingly) actually went quite well, and I think prevented the person causing a decent amount of self-harm.
(I’m a moderator, but I’m speaking personally here.)
These all are in the same reference class in my mind.
Like you, I see “sociopath” as lossier than the others, but I think I care less about brevity (vs. precision) than you do.
Brevity is crucial in cases where the same thing is discussed repeatedly, but I think people are different enough that we lose a lot by rounding off to terms like “sociopath”.
I also think it helps w/community legibility to share details on behavior. “Don’t engage with X, they have a personality disorder” tells me nothing if I have no context. “Don’t engage with X, they have bad intentions and lie frequently [insert links]” tells me something.
And if I know that X is a bad actor already, and I have context on their habitual lying, comments like “X is a binge drinker” still add nothing (and worsen the overall tone/quality of discourse).
By observing their behavior over the course of a few years, and e.g. seeing whether they have used anti-psychotic medication in the past, I come to the conclusion that it’s the case that there are some periods in which interfacing with Torres will reliably go bad, and in which their behavior will be erratic, and some other periods in which they will probably be pretty sane.
I can imagine this being valuable sometimes, and I appreciate the general point. I also liked the LW example — seems like you were being a good moderator there! (Ithelps that at least one of the people you messaged was open about their condition.)
To add my own example: I read a lot of Freddie Deboer, and he’s been very open about his struggles with bipolar disorder. If Freddie suddenly made a bunch of weird comments on the Forum, I might reach out to him the same way you did to your users.
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But I think watching someone this closely is only merited if there’s an important reason to engage with them. This applies in the case of the LW users you mention (I assume you saw them as valuable contributors to the LW community). I also think it applies to someone like Donald Trump, who had so much power and influence that it made sense for psychologists to speculate about his condition. (Same goes for all U.S. presidents.)
I don’t think Torres is a valuable contributor or a figure of towering influence. To the extent that we care about their behavior, it’s about their arguments (and how others receive them). And the best way to address their arguments is by (a) presenting facts, and (b) cataloguing their long history of dishonesty.
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I also don’t want to lose sight of the various negative things that come along with psychologizing, which trade off against brevity and predictive value:
It opens up space for insults and ad hominem attacks.
It distracts from discussion of ideas and arguments (e.g. when “has a personality disorder” replaces “consistently lies and makes bad-faith arguments”).
It’s a turn-off to readers.
If someone visits the Forum, sees speculation on the mental conditions of the community’s critics, and finds that deeply unappealing… that’s the kind of user I want to attract.
However, I also want the kinds of users that are drawn to thoughtful discussions of Forum norms. So I appreciate Habryka’s comment!
I care about politeness and friendliness because I see them as ways to keep our focus on ideas rather than people.
Many points here, many of which I agree with. Here is one that I disagree with:
I don’t think Torres is a valuable contributor or a figure of towering influence. To the extent that we care about their behavior, it’s about their arguments (and how others receive them). And the best way to address their arguments is by (a) presenting facts, and (b) cataloguing their long history of dishonesty.
I definitely have personally changed my relationship to Torres after thinking more about their history of behavior in other contexts, and the underlying psychology that might explain those behaviors. For example, I have updated the degree to which I expect Torres to take much higher-variance actions like becoming paranoid, or accusing others of major crimes, or potentially even attacking someone physically (I wish I did not have to track the risk of physical violence, but alas, I sure am tracking the likelihood that people will try to attack others physically after the whole Ziz situation).
I also think in terms of public communication I am generally in favor of honesty, and if the honest reason why I am hesitant to engage with someone is because they have a history of unstable behavior that causes harm to themselves and people around them, then I think I want to be honest about that.
I just want to say that there are a lot of reasons why interfacing with someone in one context can work out well but not generalize to other contexts, and just because “this person experiences psychotic episodes” can explain this well, it does not mean that your guess of psychosis is actually correct.
You can just say: ”A lot of people I know who have had positive interactions with them in one context turns out to have had very bad interactions in other contexts. They also have a pattern of what I would consider erratic and unpredictable behavior. For example, ___. So I would be careful about these positive experiences and not take that to mean they will always respond positively.”
I don’t think the LW analogy tracks. There’s a difference between messaging someone (in private?) about a mental disorder they have publicly talked about and doing so with the intention of helping them, and speculating on someone’s mental health based on their behavior, with no intention of helping them.
I basically second all of Aaron’s comments about the harms of psychologizing—I can’t trust that everyone will use this with good intentions, I think it risks spreading harmful misinformation about people, I think the information transmitted can be vague and open to different interpretations.
One thing I disagree with is the predictive value—I don’t in fact think a bunch of nonexpert speculations on someone’s psychiatric diagnosis adds to predictive power. I think (as you mentioned earlier) focusing on examining the facts that lead you to the conclusion is more useful. If this was a medical forum filled only with psychiatrists that’d be a different story. But the potential harm and misunderstanding of people using loaded psychiatric terms in different ways and different intentions just seems clearly worse than focusing on describing the facts.
C’mon, I’m not making the claim that talking about someone’s mental state is never helpful in every context. I’m just saying it’s basically totally unnecessary in this specific case when deciding whether or not Émile Torres is a good faith actor.
Are you saying that before the message above you were sitting there unsure about whether or not Torres is a good faith actor, and then Sabs comes along with a claim that they have a personality disorder, and that they’ve had problems with their ex-partner, and THEN you believe that Torres is acting in bad faith? Are you saying in a first message trying to convince other forum readers whether or not Torres is acting in good faith, the best points to bring up is a unsubstantiated claim about their mental illness and some problems they’ve had in their personal life?
But lets say I was making this claim. My guess is I would still lean far closer in that direction than you—I basically think any claims about someone’s mental health in a public, non-medical forum, is usually worse than just stating the pattern of actions they’ve taken, or your best guess for what they will do based on the pattern of behavior they have exhibited. Are you a psychiatrist? Are EA forum readers psychiatrists? Do you actually know what it means to have have borderline personality disorder? Do you know the difference between schizophrenia, schizoid personality disorder and schizotypal personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder, and psychopathy? Do you know the diagnostic criteria for them? If you do, what’s your best guess at the % of forum readers who will take your stated “diagnosis” and actually understand what you mean? In any case, the OP didn’t even specify which personality disorder it is, so there’s some innuendo here that “anyone with a personality disorder is not worth engaging with”, which is pretty harmful.
FWIW, I’m not defending Émile Torres here, I find their work distasteful and intellectually dishonest. But that’s separate to what I’m talking about here.
(Edit: some of these points have already been raised by Aaron, didn’t see those replies when I was typing this)
C’mon, I’m not making the claim that talking about someone’s mental state is never helpful in every context. I’m just saying it’s ~totally unnecessary in this specific case when deciding whether or not Émile Torres is a good faith actor.
Just to be clear, I am genuinely uncertain what the right norms here are, and I did not intend this as harsh pushback on your comment. I do think the situation is less straightforward than you make it out to be, and there are pretty good arguments for allowing at least some level of talking and thinking and conversation about people’s motivations and underlying psychological factors, though as I said, man it does sure seem like a mess.
Are you saying that before the message above you were sitting there unsure about whether or not Torres is a good faith actor, and then Sabs comes along with a claim that they have a personality disorder, and that they’ve had problems with their ex-partner, and THEN you believe that Torres is acting in bad faith? Are you saying in a first message trying to convince other forum readers whether or not Torres is acting in good faith, the best points to bring up is a unsubstantiated claim about their mental illness and some problems they’ve had in their personal life?
At some point I did discover Torres’ Facebook profile as well as a number of other public pieces of documentation of their private life, and did discover a good chunk of the personal problems they have been going through, and yes, this did majorly change the way I relate to them. It was not this message from Sabs but a pretty similar message from someone on a private Slack that caused me to investigate this, and I think it was quite valuable for my model of this whole situation.
I agree that this would not be good as a “first message”, but like, most forum readers at this point have probably had multiple conversations about Torres, and on the margin, someone bringing up that they might have some mental problems doesn’t seem obviously bad to me (it also doesn’t seem obviously good to me, as I said, though I do think a very similar message a few months ago turned out to be pretty useful for my personal model of the situation).
Are you a psychiatrist? Are EA forum readers psychiatrists? Do you actually know what it means to have have borderline personality disorder? Do you know the difference between schizophrenia, schizoid personality disorder and schizotypal personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder, and psychopathy?
I am not a psychiatrist, and also furthermore, I do not believe in gating the use of valuable concepts behind professional boundaries. I have indeed researched various aspects of personality disorders quite a bit, and my best guess is that I have an understanding comparable, or probably slightly better than many psychiatrists, at least along the dimensions that are most relevant to my life and the EA community (based on having talked to some people with a psychology background about this).
I do indeed also know the difference between all the disorders that you listed, though not like in excruciating detail (with the exception of the difference between schizoid and schizotypal personality disorder), but I did do a quite substantial amount of reading in this space as I kept running across people in the community that were causing harm and seemed to be reasonably well-described by some well-documented psychological patterns (though like, I am overall not a huge fan of the ontology that psychiatry uses here, and think it has a number of pretty huge problems, of which the tendency to put things into discrete categories and the tendency to reify clusters of symptoms by giving them names that are just a summary of their symptoms that then later on get used as semantic stopsigns are the two foremost ones).
In any case, the OP didn’t even specify which personality disorder it is, so there’s some innuendo here that “anyone with a personality disorder is not worth engaging with”, which is pretty harmful.
I agree this innuendo seems kinda bad to me, and I think attitudes of the type of “if you have any diagnosable mental problem you are not worth engaging with” are really bad and have all kinds of bad downstream effects on culture and people feeling safe, etc.
Yeah fair enough, I could have acknowledged that more, apologies.
The part where you go into detail about how much psychiatry you know strengthens the point that immediately follows:
If you do, what’s your best guess at the % of forum readers who will take your stated “diagnosis” and actually understand what you mean?
The point I am making is not just about whether or not it is appropriate for you to use psychiatric concepts, (and not at all about whether these concepts can only be used by psychiatrists), the point I am also making is that if we are to combine a complex set of behaviors into a 3 or 4 letter diagnosis, we better make sure the people you are talking to actually understand what you are talking about, and I think I probably have a very different model of common knowledge and how people interpret psychiatric diagnoses than you do, and I think in a smaller world where there’s good common knowledge and everyone trusts each other to be using these in good faith / without malice, it can be more appropriate. But I doubt this is the case on this forum, especially not right now.
The point I am making is not just about whether or not it is appropriate for you to use psychiatric concepts, (and not at all about whether these concepts can only be used by psychiatrists), the point I am also making is that if we are to combine a complex set of behaviors into a 3 or 4 letter diagnosis, we better make sure the people you are talking to actually understand what you are talking about, and I think I probably have a very different model of common knowledge and how people interpret psychiatric diagnoses than you do, and I think in a smaller world where there’s good common knowledge and everyone trusts each other to be using these in good faith / without malice, it can be more appropriate. But I doubt this is the case on this forum, especially not right now.
I both agree with you here that there is something particularly risky about using these kinds of concepts in public discussions, since people often have an actively wrong understanding of what different things actually mean, but I also feel like this is a pretty different standard than we apply in almost all other domains of discourse.
Like, if a bunch of people make posts that rely on advanced math or physics or chemistry knowledge, as many posts both here and on LW tend to do, I don’t think I would tell people to stop that because most of the audience wouldn’t understand what is going on. It seems indeed quite valuable for people with the relevant knowledge to say what they want to say, even if they can’t bridge the full inferential distance to others.
I understand that part of the reason for additional hesitation here is that these concepts then also often get used to attack people, and these concepts are more loaded with connotations than other concepts, and misunderstandings are more prevalent, but I still think it’s then important to at least recognize that we are losing some important communication here.
I personally try to avoid terms like “psychopath” as much as possible, because of a bunch of misunderstandings in the space, but other things like “bipolar” seem to have fewer misunderstandings and I think are pretty OK to use. “Autism” seems bad in some context, but I feel like is pretty okay to discuss in the forum context.
but I also feel like this is a pretty different standard than we apply in almost all other domains of discourse.
I agree it’s a different standard, but I don’t think it’s an unfairly different standard. I think the reason is that people won’t see complicated maths/physics knowledge and misinterpret the meaning of a complex topic they don’t understand.
For illustrative purposes (screenshot because the text version had some formatting issues not supported by the forum):
If someone stumbles across this and doesn’t understand what a Lipschitz constant is, they will likely know they don’t understand it, and search it up, or move on. There’s basically no common usage of the term “the Banach space”. There’s a much lower likelihood of harm done by the author wrongly assuming this gap in technical knowledge.
On the other hand, saying someone has a personality disorder, saying they are psychotic, saying they have mental illnesses is much more prone to people thinking, “oh, I know what it means to be a psychopath, I’ve seen American Psycho”. We should be much more careful about assuming knowledge in this space, given words like depression, borderline, psychotic, antisocial, paranoid, obsessive, autistic have meanings in the psychiatry world but also meanings in common parlance which mean pretty different things, the often-poor portrayal of mental disorders in the media, and the continued stigma around mental disorders. For these reasons, I’m less optimistic around the merits of using both bipolar and autistic when speculating about the actions of someone else on a public forum.
I still think it’s then important to at least recognize that we are losing some important communication here.
I disagree, I think the benefit of saying [concerning set of actions + behaviors and my best guess for what their behavior might be going forward and why] instead of saying I think this person has [diagnosis] is not (for the vast majority of relevant scenarios) that we are losing information that is important, but we are losing speed and concision in communication. But given the risks and potential harm, I think in the vast majority of cases, losing speed and concision is worth it.
I think this might be a crux, and I’d be interested in a hypothetical example that illustrates this. If you can find an example where we are losing important, decision relevant information without explicitly making a best guess at a psychiatric diagnosis (compared to say, a lengthier discussion around how you came to the impression of a suspected diagnosis in the first place), I’ll update accordingly-but otherwise I’m not really seeing how we are actually losing important communication. [1]
The hypothetical example has to be suitable for discussion on the forum, and can’t include a scenario where you think imminent harm was taking place and needed immediate action, and no one was responding to DMs or something.
I think the information you are sharing is useful (some parts less so, I agree with pseudonym), just don’t deadname/misgender them. EA is better than that.
reconsideration of the value of people being able to call out bad actors when they see them
I think you have a point, but I think community norms are slow to change. Incidentally, though, in the past people have called out bad people/behaviors e.g., here, here or here, though these tend to be very well researched, forceful pieces—and so you might expect such criticism to not often be produced, because of the effort involved.
At the very least, if someone points out that someone else likely has a personality disorder, I’d qualify it with something like “untreated” or “without a shred of insight.” It’s a lot less stigmatizing that way because it implies that getting treatment out of one’s own accord and working on things mitigates a lot of the potential for damage. Also, while I’m not a fan of stigma around mental health anywhere, I think if there should be some stigma, then it makes sense to at least be more specific. (To be clear, I think there should be severe warnings around people with specific personality disorders in specific contexts, but to my ears, “stigma” goes somewhat beyond that and that’s what I don’t like.) Some personality disorders seem to leave behind no trail of destruction or animosity. And even among people with the same disorder you can notice vast differences based on other personality traits and just generally what sort of ideals or self-image someone has built up.
I also find the focus on mental illness inappropriate.
This seems like a very bad policy. The risks posed by people with dangerous personality traits has been an EA topic for a while. And we have just had the biggest crisis in the history of EA and it seems one of the contributing factors was people not sharing red flags about the person involved’s personality. If someone had shared concerns that Sam exhibited dangerous personality disorders a month ago, would CEA have also attempted to suppress that?
The comment above is unnecessarily insulting and harsh.
It was not helpful for good discourse. I don’t believe that speculating about mental illness in this way is appropriate unless there’s a good and stated reason for it.
The comment deadnamed and misgendered Torres, and was not corrected after I pointed this out.[1]
On the point brought up by some Forum users, that the comment is informative: extremely critical content — including fairly vague negative impressions of someone — can be very useful to surface. But I think it’s very important for us to uphold the Forum’s norms about kindness, civility, staying on topic, and honesty, especially when the typical reader might be predisposed to suspending them because of past experiences with someone involved.
There was some discussion about this two years ago (again relating to Torres). Some relevant excerpts from Aaron’s comments from this thread:
One complication in this situation is that [Torres] doesn’t have a good reputation among the Forum’s users, some of whom have had unpleasant personal interactions with [them] (myself included, several times over). But I don’t want our norms about personal accusations to depend on how popular or pleasant the targets are. If you were accusing me of calling you a Nazi, I’d hope you would link to evidence, and I want the same standard to hold for [Torres].
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To the extent that someone’s problematic interpersonal behavior is being discussed on the Forum, I still believe we should try to actually show evidence. Many Forum readers are new to the community, or otherwise aren’t privy to drama within the field of longtermist research. If someone wants to warn the entire community that someone is behaving badly, the most effective warnings will include evidence. [...]
Imagine showing a random person from outside the EA community* (say, someone familiar with Twitter) [this comment] and [this comment], as well as the karma scores. That person might conclude “[commenter] was right and [Torres] was wrong”. They might also conclude “[Commenter] is a popular member of the ingroup and [Torres] is getting cancelled for wrongthink”.
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While some users contribute more value to Forum discussion than others [...], I associate the pattern of “giving ‘valued’ users more leeway to bend rules/norms” with many bad consequences in many different settings.
I think my original comment might have been unnecessarily ungenerous — it’s sometimes genuinely hard to track name and pronoun changes, and I should have more readily assumed that this was an honest mistake in Sabs’s original comment. However, the fact that they haven’t edited their original comment since I pointed the error out is concerning and makes the deadnaming and misgendering seem much more deliberate.
I want to point out to you that regardless of whether Torres is worth engaging with or not, misgendering them like this signals lack of cooperativeness to the several queer and trans* ‘EAs’ who have nothing to do with the issue (which is fine, as long as you really intend to be uncooperative with them, in which case doing so helps them get accurate maps of who is worth working with for the future lightcone and who is not).
I am in favor of respecting people’s pronouns (within reason) and am against deadnaming (as long as its not used to avoid past misdoings, which doesn’t seem to be the case this time), so I think the deadnaming seems bad either way, but I just remember the pronoun situation being a bit more confusing.
Fellas, just don’t engage w/ Phil Torres, the guy has a personality disorder. If you want good-faith criticism of EA this ain’t it. The guy has tweeted about how everyone would be better off dead and engages in chronic self-destructive behaviour like binge drinking, giving all his money to random strangers, etc, etc. All the “I hate you don’t leave me” stuff w/ his ex-gf is also classic personality disorder stuff. He’s a screwed up guy. Don’t give him the benefit of the doubt! Don’t engage!
(edit: or, if you do engage, for once this is a great time to play the man not the ball and actually point out why his criticisms can’t be taken seriously because they come from such an obviously messed-up bad-faith actor)
Writing as a moderator. I think this comment is unnecessarily harsh and insulting, and also deadnames and misgenders Torres. It clearly violates Forum norms.
We generally assume that deadnaming or misgendering is an honest mistake, but given that the discussion around this post has been referring to Torres by their preferred name and pronouns, I find this less plausible.
I also find the focus on mental illness inappropriate.
Please correct the name and pronouns in this comment. I’ll be discussing with the rest of the moderation about potential further action.
And yet it transmits information. Sabs also has recently be making a number of harsh and sharp statements, some of which have been downvoted but which I nonetheless have found valuable. I’d encourage the moderators to be lenient.
I love how “the community’s second biggest funder turns out to be a scam artist” does not even prompt the slightest reconsideration of the value of people being able to call out bad actors when they see them, nope, we’re just going to double-down on this absurd and comical set of community politeness norms that do little but enable savvy predators to exploit EA as a movement and individual EAs as people.
And fwiw, there were a number of other conclusions I could have very easily drawn about Torres and signs of mental illness I could have pointed out, but I very carefully did not since I thought those might be upsetting. This was the toned-down version of my original post.
Do you know that they have a personality disorder? I don’t see how pushing back on internet strangers making claims about others’ mental state is an “absurd and comical set of community politeness norm.”
I agree that Torres is clearly acting in bad faith, and I think many EAs already know this. But even if they didn’t, the justification for them being a bad faith actor is NOT because of your assumption of their personality disorder or mental illness, nor their personal problems with their ex-partner. So yes, this “transmits information”, but not anything that’s relevant to how we should respond. We should choose not engage because they act in bad faith, not because you think they have a mental illness. We should think they act in bad faith because of the quality of their writing and choice of argument, not because they have problems with their ex-partner. And in this specific case, it’s very easy to show they act in bad faith without resorting to those kinds of claims.
You should also know, that by making this statement, you have in fact given them more fodder to use against EA.
I have strongly downvoted your original comment.
Man, this sure is a dicy topic, but I do think it’s pretty likely that Torres has a personality disorder, and that modeling these kinds of things is often important.
A while ago we had a conversation on the forum on whether Elon Musk might be (at least somewhat) autistic. A number of people pushed back on this as ungrounded speculation and as irrelevant in a way that seemed highly confused to me, since like, being autistic has huge effects on how you make decisions and how you relate to the world, and Musk has been a relevant player in many EA-adjacent cause areas for quite a while.
I do think there is some trickiness in talking about this kind of stuff, but talking about someone’s internal mental makeup can often be really important. Indeed, lots of people were saying to me in-person that they were modeling SBF as a sociopath, and implying that they would not feel comfortable giving that description in public, since that’s rude. I think in this case that diagnosis sure would have been really helpful and I think our norms against bringing up this kind of stuff harmed us quite a bit.
To be clear I am not advocating for a culture of psychologizing everyone. I think that’s terrible, and a lot of the worse interactions I’ve had with people external to the community have been people who have tried to dismiss various risks from artificial intelligence through various psychologizing lenses like “these people are power-obsessed, which is why they think an AI will want to dominate everyone”, which… are really not helpful and seem just straightforwardly very wrong to me, while also being very hard to respond to.
I don’t currently have a great proposal for norms for discussing this kind of stuff, especially as an attack (I feel less bad about the Elon autism discussion, since like, Elon identifies at least partially as autistic and I don’t think he would see it as an insult). Seems hard. My current guess is that it must be OK to at some point, after engaging extensively with someone’s object-level arguments, to bring up more psychologizing explanations and intuitions, but that it currently should come pretty late, after the object-level has been responded to and relatively thoroughly explored. I think this is the case with Torres, but not the case with many other people.
I’m highly dubious of this case.
What does “personality disorder” tell you that “habitual liar with a grudge” doesn’t?
What does “sociopath” tell you that “habitual liar who casually exploits other people” doesn’t? (Or “un-lawful oathbreaker”?)
What prediction would you make about Torres based on psychologizing that you wouldn’t be able to make using the information that led you to psychologize in the first place?
These all are in the same reference class in my mind, so I don’t really know what you are referring to. Of these “sociopath” is the shortest, though relatedly also the lossiest (like, it sure is a frequently misused concept, but also, my guess is its vaguely mapping to something real in the world, despite me despising like 90% of the times that it is used).
For example, let’s assume that (I do not have strong evidence for it, but it seems at least vaguely plausible to me) that Torres suffers from psychotic episodes. By observing their behavior over the course of a few years, and e.g. seeing whether they have used anti-psychotic medication in the past, I come to the conclusion that it’s the case that there are some periods in which interfacing with Torres will reliably go bad, and in which their behavior will be erratic, and some other periods in which they will probably be pretty sane.
This seems really helpful to me! If I am now engaging with Torres online or in-person, I might find myself having a surprisingly good and calm conversation, but if the person often has psychotic episodes, then we should expect the behavior during the good times to generalize less well to their behavior during bad times.
Again, this is all a hypothetical, I don’t think I have much of any evidence to suggest that Torres has psychotic episodes, but I do think that considering the hypothesis and thinking about it can pay off pretty well.
As another concrete example, there were 2-3 commenters over the years on LW whose behavior was best explained by realizing that they are bipolar, and when they were in a manic episode, they would write very differently and engage very differently than if they were in a depressive episode (or in no episode at all). One thing that actually helped a good amount in two of those cases was sending a message being like “Hey, btw, I think you are having a manic episode (I saw on your blog that you said you were bipolar). I would suggest maybe taking a step back from commenting until you are in a better place”, and that (surprisingly) actually went quite well, and I think prevented the person causing a decent amount of self-harm.
(I’m a moderator, but I’m speaking personally here.)
Like you, I see “sociopath” as lossier than the others, but I think I care less about brevity (vs. precision) than you do.
Brevity is crucial in cases where the same thing is discussed repeatedly, but I think people are different enough that we lose a lot by rounding off to terms like “sociopath”.
I also think it helps w/community legibility to share details on behavior. “Don’t engage with X, they have a personality disorder” tells me nothing if I have no context. “Don’t engage with X, they have bad intentions and lie frequently [insert links]” tells me something.
And if I know that X is a bad actor already, and I have context on their habitual lying, comments like “X is a binge drinker” still add nothing (and worsen the overall tone/quality of discourse).
I can imagine this being valuable sometimes, and I appreciate the general point. I also liked the LW example — seems like you were being a good moderator there! (It helps that at least one of the people you messaged was open about their condition.)
To add my own example: I read a lot of Freddie Deboer, and he’s been very open about his struggles with bipolar disorder. If Freddie suddenly made a bunch of weird comments on the Forum, I might reach out to him the same way you did to your users.
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But I think watching someone this closely is only merited if there’s an important reason to engage with them. This applies in the case of the LW users you mention (I assume you saw them as valuable contributors to the LW community). I also think it applies to someone like Donald Trump, who had so much power and influence that it made sense for psychologists to speculate about his condition. (Same goes for all U.S. presidents.)
I don’t think Torres is a valuable contributor or a figure of towering influence. To the extent that we care about their behavior, it’s about their arguments (and how others receive them). And the best way to address their arguments is by (a) presenting facts, and (b) cataloguing their long history of dishonesty.
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I also don’t want to lose sight of the various negative things that come along with psychologizing, which trade off against brevity and predictive value:
It opens up space for insults and ad hominem attacks.
It distracts from discussion of ideas and arguments (e.g. when “has a personality disorder” replaces “consistently lies and makes bad-faith arguments”).
It’s a turn-off to readers.
If someone visits the Forum, sees speculation on the mental conditions of the community’s critics, and finds that deeply unappealing… that’s the kind of user I want to attract.
However, I also want the kinds of users that are drawn to thoughtful discussions of Forum norms. So I appreciate Habryka’s comment!
I care about politeness and friendliness because I see them as ways to keep our focus on ideas rather than people.
Many points here, many of which I agree with. Here is one that I disagree with:
I definitely have personally changed my relationship to Torres after thinking more about their history of behavior in other contexts, and the underlying psychology that might explain those behaviors. For example, I have updated the degree to which I expect Torres to take much higher-variance actions like becoming paranoid, or accusing others of major crimes, or potentially even attacking someone physically (I wish I did not have to track the risk of physical violence, but alas, I sure am tracking the likelihood that people will try to attack others physically after the whole Ziz situation).
I also think in terms of public communication I am generally in favor of honesty, and if the honest reason why I am hesitant to engage with someone is because they have a history of unstable behavior that causes harm to themselves and people around them, then I think I want to be honest about that.
I just want to say that there are a lot of reasons why interfacing with someone in one context can work out well but not generalize to other contexts, and just because “this person experiences psychotic episodes” can explain this well, it does not mean that your guess of psychosis is actually correct.
You can just say:
”A lot of people I know who have had positive interactions with them in one context turns out to have had very bad interactions in other contexts. They also have a pattern of what I would consider erratic and unpredictable behavior. For example, ___. So I would be careful about these positive experiences and not take that to mean they will always respond positively.”
I don’t think the LW analogy tracks. There’s a difference between messaging someone (in private?) about a mental disorder they have publicly talked about and doing so with the intention of helping them, and speculating on someone’s mental health based on their behavior, with no intention of helping them.
I basically second all of Aaron’s comments about the harms of psychologizing—I can’t trust that everyone will use this with good intentions, I think it risks spreading harmful misinformation about people, I think the information transmitted can be vague and open to different interpretations.
One thing I disagree with is the predictive value—I don’t in fact think a bunch of nonexpert speculations on someone’s psychiatric diagnosis adds to predictive power. I think (as you mentioned earlier) focusing on examining the facts that lead you to the conclusion is more useful. If this was a medical forum filled only with psychiatrists that’d be a different story. But the potential harm and misunderstanding of people using loaded psychiatric terms in different ways and different intentions just seems clearly worse than focusing on describing the facts.
C’mon, I’m not making the claim that talking about someone’s mental state is never helpful in every context. I’m just saying it’s basically totally unnecessary in this specific case when deciding whether or not Émile Torres is a good faith actor.
Are you saying that before the message above you were sitting there unsure about whether or not Torres is a good faith actor, and then Sabs comes along with a claim that they have a personality disorder, and that they’ve had problems with their ex-partner, and THEN you believe that Torres is acting in bad faith? Are you saying in a first message trying to convince other forum readers whether or not Torres is acting in good faith, the best points to bring up is a unsubstantiated claim about their mental illness and some problems they’ve had in their personal life?
But lets say I was making this claim. My guess is I would still lean far closer in that direction than you—I basically think any claims about someone’s mental health in a public, non-medical forum, is usually worse than just stating the pattern of actions they’ve taken, or your best guess for what they will do based on the pattern of behavior they have exhibited. Are you a psychiatrist? Are EA forum readers psychiatrists? Do you actually know what it means to have have borderline personality disorder? Do you know the difference between schizophrenia, schizoid personality disorder and schizotypal personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder, and psychopathy? Do you know the diagnostic criteria for them? If you do, what’s your best guess at the % of forum readers who will take your stated “diagnosis” and actually understand what you mean? In any case, the OP didn’t even specify which personality disorder it is, so there’s some innuendo here that “anyone with a personality disorder is not worth engaging with”, which is pretty harmful.
FWIW, I’m not defending Émile Torres here, I find their work distasteful and intellectually dishonest. But that’s separate to what I’m talking about here.
(Edit: some of these points have already been raised by Aaron, didn’t see those replies when I was typing this)
Just to be clear, I am genuinely uncertain what the right norms here are, and I did not intend this as harsh pushback on your comment. I do think the situation is less straightforward than you make it out to be, and there are pretty good arguments for allowing at least some level of talking and thinking and conversation about people’s motivations and underlying psychological factors, though as I said, man it does sure seem like a mess.
At some point I did discover Torres’ Facebook profile as well as a number of other public pieces of documentation of their private life, and did discover a good chunk of the personal problems they have been going through, and yes, this did majorly change the way I relate to them. It was not this message from Sabs but a pretty similar message from someone on a private Slack that caused me to investigate this, and I think it was quite valuable for my model of this whole situation.
I agree that this would not be good as a “first message”, but like, most forum readers at this point have probably had multiple conversations about Torres, and on the margin, someone bringing up that they might have some mental problems doesn’t seem obviously bad to me (it also doesn’t seem obviously good to me, as I said, though I do think a very similar message a few months ago turned out to be pretty useful for my personal model of the situation).
I am not a psychiatrist, and also furthermore, I do not believe in gating the use of valuable concepts behind professional boundaries. I have indeed researched various aspects of personality disorders quite a bit, and my best guess is that I have an understanding comparable, or probably slightly better than many psychiatrists, at least along the dimensions that are most relevant to my life and the EA community (based on having talked to some people with a psychology background about this).
I do indeed also know the difference between all the disorders that you listed, though not like in excruciating detail (with the exception of the difference between schizoid and schizotypal personality disorder), but I did do a quite substantial amount of reading in this space as I kept running across people in the community that were causing harm and seemed to be reasonably well-described by some well-documented psychological patterns (though like, I am overall not a huge fan of the ontology that psychiatry uses here, and think it has a number of pretty huge problems, of which the tendency to put things into discrete categories and the tendency to reify clusters of symptoms by giving them names that are just a summary of their symptoms that then later on get used as semantic stopsigns are the two foremost ones).
I agree this innuendo seems kinda bad to me, and I think attitudes of the type of “if you have any diagnosable mental problem you are not worth engaging with” are really bad and have all kinds of bad downstream effects on culture and people feeling safe, etc.
Yeah fair enough, I could have acknowledged that more, apologies.
The part where you go into detail about how much psychiatry you know strengthens the point that immediately follows:
The point I am making is not just about whether or not it is appropriate for you to use psychiatric concepts, (and not at all about whether these concepts can only be used by psychiatrists), the point I am also making is that if we are to combine a complex set of behaviors into a 3 or 4 letter diagnosis, we better make sure the people you are talking to actually understand what you are talking about, and I think I probably have a very different model of common knowledge and how people interpret psychiatric diagnoses than you do, and I think in a smaller world where there’s good common knowledge and everyone trusts each other to be using these in good faith / without malice, it can be more appropriate. But I doubt this is the case on this forum, especially not right now.
I both agree with you here that there is something particularly risky about using these kinds of concepts in public discussions, since people often have an actively wrong understanding of what different things actually mean, but I also feel like this is a pretty different standard than we apply in almost all other domains of discourse.
Like, if a bunch of people make posts that rely on advanced math or physics or chemistry knowledge, as many posts both here and on LW tend to do, I don’t think I would tell people to stop that because most of the audience wouldn’t understand what is going on. It seems indeed quite valuable for people with the relevant knowledge to say what they want to say, even if they can’t bridge the full inferential distance to others.
I understand that part of the reason for additional hesitation here is that these concepts then also often get used to attack people, and these concepts are more loaded with connotations than other concepts, and misunderstandings are more prevalent, but I still think it’s then important to at least recognize that we are losing some important communication here.
I personally try to avoid terms like “psychopath” as much as possible, because of a bunch of misunderstandings in the space, but other things like “bipolar” seem to have fewer misunderstandings and I think are pretty OK to use. “Autism” seems bad in some context, but I feel like is pretty okay to discuss in the forum context.
I agree it’s a different standard, but I don’t think it’s an unfairly different standard. I think the reason is that people won’t see complicated maths/physics knowledge and misinterpret the meaning of a complex topic they don’t understand.
For illustrative purposes (screenshot because the text version had some formatting issues not supported by the forum):
If someone stumbles across this and doesn’t understand what a Lipschitz constant is, they will likely know they don’t understand it, and search it up, or move on. There’s basically no common usage of the term “the Banach space”. There’s a much lower likelihood of harm done by the author wrongly assuming this gap in technical knowledge.
On the other hand, saying someone has a personality disorder, saying they are psychotic, saying they have mental illnesses is much more prone to people thinking, “oh, I know what it means to be a psychopath, I’ve seen American Psycho”. We should be much more careful about assuming knowledge in this space, given words like depression, borderline, psychotic, antisocial, paranoid, obsessive, autistic have meanings in the psychiatry world but also meanings in common parlance which mean pretty different things, the often-poor portrayal of mental disorders in the media, and the continued stigma around mental disorders. For these reasons, I’m less optimistic around the merits of using both bipolar and autistic when speculating about the actions of someone else on a public forum.
I disagree, I think the benefit of saying [concerning set of actions + behaviors and my best guess for what their behavior might be going forward and why] instead of saying I think this person has [diagnosis] is not (for the vast majority of relevant scenarios) that we are losing information that is important, but we are losing speed and concision in communication. But given the risks and potential harm, I think in the vast majority of cases, losing speed and concision is worth it.
I think this might be a crux, and I’d be interested in a hypothetical example that illustrates this. If you can find an example where we are losing important, decision relevant information without explicitly making a best guess at a psychiatric diagnosis (compared to say, a lengthier discussion around how you came to the impression of a suspected diagnosis in the first place), I’ll update accordingly-but otherwise I’m not really seeing how we are actually losing important communication. [1]
The hypothetical example has to be suitable for discussion on the forum, and can’t include a scenario where you think imminent harm was taking place and needed immediate action, and no one was responding to DMs or something.
I think the information you are sharing is useful (some parts less so, I agree with pseudonym), just don’t deadname/misgender them. EA is better than that.
I think you have a point, but I think community norms are slow to change. Incidentally, though, in the past people have called out bad people/behaviors e.g., here, here or here, though these tend to be very well researched, forceful pieces—and so you might expect such criticism to not often be produced, because of the effort involved.
At the very least, if someone points out that someone else likely has a personality disorder, I’d qualify it with something like “untreated” or “without a shred of insight.” It’s a lot less stigmatizing that way because it implies that getting treatment out of one’s own accord and working on things mitigates a lot of the potential for damage. Also, while I’m not a fan of stigma around mental health anywhere, I think if there should be some stigma, then it makes sense to at least be more specific. (To be clear, I think there should be severe warnings around people with specific personality disorders in specific contexts, but to my ears, “stigma” goes somewhat beyond that and that’s what I don’t like.) Some personality disorders seem to leave behind no trail of destruction or animosity. And even among people with the same disorder you can notice vast differences based on other personality traits and just generally what sort of ideals or self-image someone has built up.
This seems like a very bad policy. The risks posed by people with dangerous personality traits has been an EA topic for a while. And we have just had the biggest crisis in the history of EA and it seems one of the contributing factors was people not sharing red flags about the person involved’s personality. If someone had shared concerns that Sam exhibited dangerous personality disorders a month ago, would CEA have also attempted to suppress that?
Ironically the forum mods did not permit this comment to be visible for 4 (four) days until 28th Nov when the conversation had died down.
We’re issuing Sabs a 1-month ban for breaking the norms repeatedly in the comment above, despite our warning 10 days ago. Specifically, we think that Sabs violated the following norms:
The comment above is unnecessarily insulting and harsh.
It was not helpful for good discourse. I don’t believe that speculating about mental illness in this way is appropriate unless there’s a good and stated reason for it.
The comment deadnamed and misgendered Torres, and was not corrected after I pointed this out.[1]
On the point brought up by some Forum users, that the comment is informative: extremely critical content — including fairly vague negative impressions of someone — can be very useful to surface. But I think it’s very important for us to uphold the Forum’s norms about kindness, civility, staying on topic, and honesty, especially when the typical reader might be predisposed to suspending them because of past experiences with someone involved.
There was some discussion about this two years ago (again relating to Torres). Some relevant excerpts from Aaron’s comments from this thread:
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I think my original comment might have been unnecessarily ungenerous — it’s sometimes genuinely hard to track name and pronoun changes, and I should have more readily assumed that this was an honest mistake in Sabs’s original comment. However, the fact that they haven’t edited their original comment since I pointed the error out is concerning and makes the deadnaming and misgendering seem much more deliberate.
I want to point out to you that regardless of whether Torres is worth engaging with or not, misgendering them like this signals lack of cooperativeness to the several queer and trans* ‘EAs’ who have nothing to do with the issue (which is fine, as long as you really intend to be uncooperative with them, in which case doing so helps them get accurate maps of who is worth working with for the future lightcone and who is not).
not fine IMO
Sorry, not fine what?
I assume Peter means it’s not fine to signal the lack of cooperativeness you describe above
I thought when we had that discussion last time the gender preferences for Torres were super confusing, and it’s pretty plausible they are OK being referred to by”he/him”?
I am in favor of respecting people’s pronouns (within reason) and am against deadnaming (as long as its not used to avoid past misdoings, which doesn’t seem to be the case this time), so I think the deadnaming seems bad either way, but I just remember the pronoun situation being a bit more confusing.
Torres is now fully they/them I think
Cool, makes sense. It does look like at least their FB profile is updated and doesn’t like “he/him” pronouns anymore.