I want an easy/polite/non-offensive way to say “sorry, this reply is way too long, so I’m not going to read it, so I prefer that you know explicitly that I won’t reply rather than feeling like I’m maybe ignoring you and maybe will get to it, and also this doesn’t mean that you’re wrong, or that a long-reply is the wrong choice, it mainly means I’m trying to prioritize my own life tasks and will be dropping some balls and this is one thing that I think would be healthy for me to drop, and I wish this didn’t have negative social implications for our relationship or for your feeling about yourself, because I was also raised in a culture where a reply like this would be rude and make me feel bad about myself, and I really wish it wasn’t like that [and I have no idea what to do about it, so I thought I’d raise the meta-problem explicitly in a forum-quick-take. [I wonder if anyone will notice me or if this, too, will be too long]]”
“Thank you for the comment. There’s a lot here. Could you highlight what you think the main takeaway is? I don’t have time to dig into this at present, so any condensing would be appreciated. Thanks again for the time and effort.” ??
To push back a bit, I feel like unless a reply is reeeeeeeeeeeeeally long I think its good practise to make the effort to read it and respond. Part of putting a post up I think implicitly means we should make the effort to engage with people who engage with us (within reason of course)
To answer the question though, I think a short reply which thanks someone for the comment and perhaps mentions one of their points without comprehensively responding is also completely finr!
I think a short reply which thanks someone for the comment and perhaps mentions one of their points without comprehensively responding is also completely finr!
I wouldn’t want someone to do that to me (I can try to explain why if it’s unintuitive)
Depending on how long it takes you to read things normally, and how long the texts you’re thinking about actually are, it might be reasonably efficient to ask GPT-4 or something to summarize for you.
I don’t think it would work for the case I’m thinking about, but useful idea, and I better also try it on some cases that I intuitively wouldn’t expect to work
“I generally reply with about a paragraph/tweet, but you’ve written too much for me to do that, is there a specific point I can respond to that’s most important to you? Thanks for your time”
Btw, I’d generally recommend always at least skimreading a thing before you put it down, IME it leads to much better outcomes than just not reading it at all.
I want an easy/polite/non-offensive way to say “sorry, this reply is way too long, so I’m not going to read it, so I prefer that you know explicitly that I won’t reply rather than feeling like I’m maybe ignoring you and maybe will get to it, and also this doesn’t mean that you’re wrong, or that a long-reply is the wrong choice, it mainly means I’m trying to prioritize my own life tasks and will be dropping some balls and this is one thing that I think would be healthy for me to drop, and I wish this didn’t have negative social implications for our relationship or for your feeling about yourself, because I was also raised in a culture where a reply like this would be rude and make me feel bad about myself, and I really wish it wasn’t like that [and I have no idea what to do about it, so I thought I’d raise the meta-problem explicitly in a forum-quick-take. [I wonder if anyone will notice me or if this, too, will be too long]]”
“Thank you for the comment. There’s a lot here. Could you highlight what you think the main takeaway is? I don’t have time to dig into this at present, so any condensing would be appreciated. Thanks again for the time and effort.” ??
To push back a bit, I feel like unless a reply is reeeeeeeeeeeeeally long I think its good practise to make the effort to read it and respond. Part of putting a post up I think implicitly means we should make the effort to engage with people who engage with us (within reason of course)
To answer the question though, I think a short reply which thanks someone for the comment and perhaps mentions one of their points without comprehensively responding is also completely finr!
I wouldn’t want someone to do that to me (I can try to explain why if it’s unintuitive)
(I’m not thinking about replies to posts that I write, but rather—me joining some other conversation and commenting something)
So like you’re on Twitter or Facebook, you comment on someone’s post, and in response you get a wall of text?
I think that’s normally considered a faux pas on the part of the person posting a long response, and the polite thing for you to do is ignore it
I mean on the EA forum / lesswrong
Depending on how long it takes you to read things normally, and how long the texts you’re thinking about actually are, it might be reasonably efficient to ask GPT-4 or something to summarize for you.
Interesting!
I don’t think it would work for the case I’m thinking about, but useful idea, and I better also try it on some cases that I intuitively wouldn’t expect to work
Thanks!
TL;DR but I appreciate you 🙂
“I generally reply with about a paragraph/tweet, but you’ve written too much for me to do that, is there a specific point I can respond to that’s most important to you? Thanks for your time”
Thank them for the comment, and then link to this thread?
You, sir, get meta points
Btw, I’d generally recommend always at least skimreading a thing before you put it down, IME it leads to much better outcomes than just not reading it at all.
With all due respect, TL;DR
TL;DR;BNOB
(“but not obviously bad”)