The explanation is IMO less about frugality and more about getting lucky with my career choice. I spend about 45k a year, which is kinda frugal for my peers but globally I’m a spendthrift. I spend about 1.8k a month on rent, a few hundred on food, and take a vacation once or twice a year. My main hobbies are cheap (video games, board games, birding, pickleball).
It is often much easier to make more money than it is to save more. I would personally focus more on that side of the equation.
My wife & I don’t want kids. If we did, I probably would want to save more (just for college). But even if we did, we were very lucky to have software engineering jobs over the last 10 years. We’d basically be fine.
Oh totally. I’m lucky to be in the Bay Area where EA is a thing at all.